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Sleep under any condition (rant)

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Rosesared · 17/11/2018 17:15

So I'm wondering...dunno if u get the same, people insist your baby should be able to sleep under ANY circumstance. "Oh MY baby slept whilst the bluddy titanic hit the iceberg" or some such nonsense. And then they proceed with a load of banging n clanging whilst ur desperately trying to get your overtired poor mite to catch 40 winks...
Really?! Would YOU be able to sleep whilst (particularly a MIL) purposefully talks in a super loud voice, rattling pots and pans and stomping round the wood floor like a flipping elephant ballerina?
I just don't get it!
Rant over
Thanks
《Quietly creeps over to stare at my sleeping precious》

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Knittedfairies · 17/11/2018 17:18

I well remember my daughter asleep in her buggy while the Salvation Army played Christmas carols feet away from her. Later that evening she awoke when my husband’s knee cracked on the landing outside her bedroom...

FortheloveofJames · 17/11/2018 17:23

You’re not the only one. Literally annoys the shit out of me. My DS only sleeps more than 45 mins in the dark, in his cot. He’s always been like this ever since he was tiny. I despised the ‘I’m sure he’ll sleep if you try’, or ‘he can’t sleep in the pitch dark his whole life’ or my fav... ‘if he’s tired he will sleep’ Envy comments.

I don’t know about anyone else but I don’t think I’d be able to sleep with banging and hoovering, and in bright light

HenSolo · 17/11/2018 17:33

Oh god so annoying. A delivery man came to my door the other day while ds2 was asleep in the pram in the hallway, so I (politely) asked him to shh a bit while we were talking...he laughed loudly and shouted, “listen love I’ve had six kids and best thing for them is loads of noise to teach them to sleep!” And banged on the side of the door laughing. Was so stunned didn’t say anything. Needless to say, ds woke up. Was fuming, was in the middle of my bloody lunch which I neeeever get to eat uninterrupted gaaaaaah

TheWickedWitchofWestYorkshire · 17/11/2018 18:02

My family were the same. They said we should be loud and do normal things on an evening when the kids went to bed. W
They didn't seem to understand that we did do normal things when they went to bed because we're a quiet couple. We have quiet music on and the TV vol on level 15 in the night. We don't have parties etc anyway so why on earth should we start doing so just to get babies used to noise?!

FWIW our children are 6&7 now and will sleep through most things. Can you remember the other year when those jet planes went past and there were 2 very loud, very sudden sonic booms? My children slept through them. They sleep through fireworks, neighbours' parties, early morning birdsong... anything. We're still really quiet on an evening though.

Rosesared · 17/11/2018 19:14

And then I'm sure everyone knows of a baby, somewhere in the family, that slept in the carrycot under the table at someone's wedding goin on in full swing...I thought to myself...by 4 months old (sleep regression time) my baby had more than outgrown her carrycot by quite a few weeks. Thus, said baby in said carrycot must've been only a few weeks old at the time. MOST newborns sleep through anything (unless colicy or sommat, of course) they're programmed to sleep 20hrs per day until about 8weeks.
To The WWWY, we said we won't be the kind of household to go: Ssshhhhh, baby's sleeping! But as it stands, during daytime it's only really myself, dd and the 2 cats, so by default, dd got used to quiet. Why would I go stomping round the house, screaming like a banshee...just so baby can "sleep thru anything". We're not shhing because dd's asleep, we're just a naturally quiet household, like yours.

Hensolo, I'd blow my top! How effing inconsiderate. However, I do remember having people come to lay new carpets and dd falling asleep whilst they were hammering away. One lad came downstairs n said fair play, you got her to sleep inspite of all the noise. I remember being so proud..........dd was 6 weeks old at the time!

Knittedfairies, dh kissed dd last nite when he came to bed. Same thing he's done for the past 5 months. Her eyes shot open and she refused to go back to sleep for 2hrs! He felt bad and said he's never kissing her ever again haha.

Fortheloveofjames, or when they say: she's crying because you're forcing her to sleep, if you just leave her, she'll naturally sleep when she's tired Hmm

Worst of all, these comments usually come from someone who's got (grown up) kids of their own. How quickly they forget!

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Stickmangate · 17/11/2018 19:22

Ds is a very early riser. He started school this year and still wakes once most nights and is up any time from 5am.

His favourite at the moment is to wake at 4:30 and not go back to sleep. Dm’s Advice was always tell him to go back to sleep.

Gee thanks mum I hadn’t thought of that!!’

Thewalker75 · 17/11/2018 19:29

My family are the worst for this.

Granted I may have made a rod for my own back in getting ds1 to nap only his cot, so full day trips out are a no no, but if I hear 'you need to carry on as if you didn't have him' and 'if he's tired he will sleep in his pram' one more time, I won't be held responsible for my actions.

We have Christmas with them as well so I'm bracing myself.

Rosesared · 17/11/2018 19:37

Lol stickmangate!

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Fishywishyhead · 17/11/2018 19:41

I’ve just bollocked my 7 year old for waking his sister with careless baby gate shutting. Sleep through anything my arse.

Sparrowlegs248 · 17/11/2018 19:45

Agh god I had this with ds1 who was a terrible sleeper and nap resister, and my bloody mother. Shed let her self into my house, yelling "HELLOOOOO?" Almost always just as he finally fell asleep for a nap. Or is go to visit her, walk him for bloody ages a bit in the pushchair, then park him in the hallway. At which point she'd commence Sunday roast prep as loud as she could. And always ALWAYS had something to say (It's not normal!!!) When he woke up very grumpy and crying.

Sparrowlegs248 · 17/11/2018 19:45

As for night time, I couldn't get undressed in the same room without waking him
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Stuckforthefourthtime · 17/11/2018 19:47

People don't remember that it's sudden one off noises that wake them. With 3 big brothers, my 3 month old can sleep through all kinds of rumpus, but silence followed by my (childless, parebtong-expert) sister dropping something or talking at high volume wakes him every time.

Thewalker75 I'm with your family a bit on the cot thing though - they do learn to sleep on the move in a cot or pram if they really need to, and it is liberating, in terms of getting and in making it easier for potential babysitters!

SpottingTheZebras · 17/11/2018 19:48

DD1 can sleep through almost any amount of (reasonable) noise but creeping virtually silently out of her bedroom, when she has decided she wants you to stay with her for the night, and she is wide awake!

Mayhemmumma · 17/11/2018 19:54

I did this, genuinely honest first baby idiocy.

In a baby group talking about waking babies from naps so they dont sleep too late. I was like 'how is that even possible?' My DD would not wake up! I'd change her nappy, dress her and pick her up and nope....she slept. I assumed that's what all babies were like (and then I had my son)

BiscuitDrama · 17/11/2018 19:59

My eldest slept in my arms at the table of a wedding when she was 3 1/2 months old.
But it’d taken about 5 hours of feeding her/putting her in the buggy/taking her for a drive on repeat to get her to do so!

FortheloveofJames · 18/11/2018 13:13

@stuckfortheforthtime- not necessarily- I tired everything to get DS to sleep in the pram. Literally everything. He just wouldn’t sleep more than 40 mins in it. Even now at 18 months when he only had one nap- if we are out 45 mins max- at home anything up to 2.5 hours. Some times it’s just the way they are 😂

TwllBach · 18/11/2018 13:20

The night we brought DS home as a newborn from the hospital, DP decided to carry on with all the noisy DIY and DS slept the whole way through it. He continued to do that and I was probably a bit smug.

Fast forward to the following summer when he was 1 year old - about 15 months, DS would get woken up by dogs barking six houses away through a closed bloody window. That was a fucking horrible summer, but I can laugh about it now

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