Baby won’t settle in cot!

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Hi, my 3 month old dd has stopped settling in her cot, she is 13 weeks - 14 and a half by due date and for the last few nights she has ended up in our bed. She doesn’t cry through the night she is just very unsettled, she has never been the best sleeper, legs kicking all night and wriggling. I don’t want to get into the habit of co sleeping as I do not sleep properly. She has also became quite fussy taking her bottles. Could it be something to do with leap 4?? When she is in her cot if I place my hand on her face she settles but we cannot sleep like that. Any advice??

4 month sleep regression.

You can cuddle to sleep and then put down, cosleep or use a side sleeper.

Sounds like she might be a bit windy, dd was like this she wriggled and shifted all night, try bicycling legs and pushing them up to get tummy before bed, you will know if it's wind because you'll get some trumps! Quite satisfying haha. She might settle better then. Worth a shot.

I make a nest for my baby with blankets rolled up on either side so she feels cuddled but not restricted. She can obviously still move if she wants to. I always have a little corner of the blanket touch her cheek whilst she’s falling asleep for comfort.

She’s three months old, of course she doesn’t settle. My third child, 12 months, only sleeps properly next to me. This is just how it is - not getting much sleep is just part and parcel of being a parent!
They do improve. By age 2 my other two kids were sleeping 11/12 hours in their own beds

Thanks for everyone’s replies!
Oly5 - I’m not expecting her to settle and sleep through, I accept not getting much sleep is part of being a parent. My question was why has she stopped wanting to sleep in her cot the last week or so. I was wondering if it is leap 4, sleep regression or just something most babies go through?
I thought it may be wind but with her settling with me I suspect it’s not that, is she too young to be going through sleep regression? Thanks everyone

Sorry if my tone was offensive, I just see so many posts on here of people who are shocked their babies/children don’t sleep. It’s a biological thing - they just grow into it usually!
I’d say there’s no rhyme or reason really... my 1yo used to be happy to be pasted to sleep in the cot. Now he MUST fall asleep in my arms or next to me. It’s tiring but not forever. I went through all this wth my 7yo. Babies just love their mums and love comfort

Oly5 - thanks for the response! I completely understand, I think for first time parents it is a shock when baby goes from sleeping well to not sleeping at all, not offended :) I just worry for dd more than myself, I don’t think she is getting the amount of sleep needed as she doesn’t nap great either, 45 minutes at most, maybe 3 or 4 times a day. Will continue co sleeping until she feels more secure!

Yes the books say they should nap for hours but they often don’t. I also used to worry that my first child wasn’t getting enough sleep. He’d sleep for 20 mins at a time as a baby and only if I was pushing the pram! Even when he started sleeping through, he’d never do more than 10 hours even though he was supposed to sleep 12.
He’s a thriving 7yo who is doing brilliantly at school and still only sleeps 10 hours! He’s developed just fine.
My best advice is to go with the flow and do whatever gets YOU the most sleep right now.
I did gradual retreat with my middle child when he was 17 months old and it worked a treat. I’m not one for controlled crying. They do eventually sleep through and when they have more understanding you can set up reward systems for them staying in their own bed all night etc.
Good luck

It could also be teething, which can start early and take ages to produce results. Sucking hurts gums during teething which may explain the fussy drinking, which may have a knock on affect regarding the long night time sleep. Its all a guessing game at this age !