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10 month old can't be hungry....can she?

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runnerbean39 · 06/11/2018 10:05

My DD has generally been fairly allergic to sleep since she was born - would only sleep on me, frequent night waking, fed to sleep and short day naps. She's ebf.

When she was 7 months I'd had enough of cosleeping as we were waking each other up and I got her to sleep in the cot by sheer determination, I would comfort and rock her and then put her back in. She eventually started to settle more easily, waking only once or twice, first wake at 1am, sometimes as late as 3am. She also took to solids really well (blw) so fed less at night - down to 1.

Then hit the 8-10 month sleep regression and got poorly and wouldn't settle at all, so I took her back into bed. But now she is 10 months and still ill and it's all gone completely pear shaped. She will sleep in the cot but only til about 10pm and then screams until she has a full feed. After that will only settle if she cosleeps, but then she
still wakes frequently and we are both having v poor quality sleep all night. She wants feeding more often, back to 6-7 times a night. I tried feeding more in the day but instead of feeding less at night she has started eating less solids.

I don't know what to do. She's too heavy to rock for long so I don't know how to break the cycle of feeding on every wake or cosleeping. She is also resisting being rocked much more now she's older. She also can't be that hungry at 10, if she went to bed at 7, can she?

Please, any advice I'm so sleep deprived I can't do this much longer!

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runnerbean39 · 06/11/2018 10:07

Please no advice about CC though, sorry, I am not up for that.

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Catheroooo · 06/11/2018 11:32

Following! Similar here.

NaiceHamPlease · 06/11/2018 14:34

Yep, similar here so not much help. 11mo th old DS will do the first part of his night in the cot but after his first or second wake he'll cosleep and feed every two hours.

If I persist with settling back in the cot sleep time lessen until it's minutes before waking. He is big and eating well. I have no idea what to do.

We've had some success with Gradual Retreat for his first sleep of the night, he used to wake after 30 mins, I can normally get 2hrs to myself sometimes on a good night 4hrs but that's as good as it gets.

I'm really not up for CC either so interested in any suggestions and sending solidarity and much coffee!

maplebaby · 06/11/2018 21:56

Just to say we are going through similar - my almost 10 month old is waking and feeding every hour - I've tried sending in DH and also rocking / cuddling but he cries harder until he gets boob. Go back to work in 4 weeks and praying he will improve by then... just keep telling myself it's a phase...

AlpineButterfly · 06/11/2018 21:59

My nearly ten month old generally feeds at ten..he's a.sleep Dodger but will have a full feed at ten.

I tend to feed and then send DH in to settle. It seems to somehow keep him settled longer. (Four wakings last night which is a massive improvement Hmm )

Jinglesplodge · 06/11/2018 22:52

I've found my people! No advice, sadly, just solidarity. My 9 month old 91st centile ds2 is still insisting on breastfeeding back to sleep several times a night. Rocking, patting, or anything other than feeding just makes him furious. He hasn't taken well at all to solids so I don't want to try to cut down night feeds until I'm confident he's not hungry.

I'm shattered!

mummytobabygirl17 · 07/11/2018 03:41

My DD is the same, she turns one next week!

From 6 months she was In her big cot in her own room was sleeping through. About 2 months ago when being put down about 7ish she would be awake between 10-11 won’t settle without a full bottle and then up about 3. (She’s cut out her milk in the day apart from morning and evening, but then wants it in the night!)

When she had her 9-12 month check; the HV said to start reducing the 2nd bottle so then she will think about not waking as much as she’s not getting as much! (Then to try this with the first) Wish that was the case if I reduce the bottle she wakes up more! Or to try and give her water, in the day she will drink water instead of milk but hard to get her to take of a night!

We have to rock her to sleep too; which we’re trying not to do but I lose count of the amount of times we have to keep rolling her back over as she thinks it’s a game when she’s layed in her cot!

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runnerbean39 · 27/11/2018 10:37

Hi all, I'm sorry I didn't respond to you back at the beginning of the month but I was just wondering how you are all doing now? It is a comfort to know I am not the only one with a non-sleeper (as everyone I know where I live seems to have through-the-night sleepers!) and I am with you in coffee drinking!

Has anyone made any break throughs in the last few weeks?

I have changed things, but not managed much progress. I finally geared myself up to put her back in the cot all night and that's what I'm working on most. She is doing it, but sometimes in the middle of the night it takes over 20 times to get her back down. She is still waking frequently but only feeding twice to three times now she's not co-sleeping.

Yesterday I also decided to 'officially' do the pick-up put-down method (sort of doing it anyway) given that my partner and I have nearly done our backs in from rocking her now she's so heavy. So I've stopped rocking her. She has just gone down for her first nap but she was NOT a happy bunny! No proper tears but not happy at all.

Hope some of you have made more progress! I'd be really interested to hear how it's going. x

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