Goddam sleep regression reverse cycling rant

[KTD27]

Bit of a sweary rant ahead sorry if it offends butI am so TIRED!!

So my 4mo sleeps relatively well in the day but at night is a bloody nightmare. Tonight we went 7-10 feed and back down and awake again at 12 (EBF) I brought her in to feed lying down and snoozed on and off myself til 2 took her off the boob and popped her back in her cot. 2:05 awake! Its now 3:15 and she’s been either feeding or yell/gurgling at me for hours.
Wtf?!
It’s not like she used to sleep through but we used to be able to feed and get back to sleep relatively successfully. Now it’s just a fucking mess. I also have a two year old who’s up with the lark at 6:30 so by the time this one goes down at4 I’ll get oooh 2.5 hours more sleep?
She’s defo reverse cycling as happily goes much longer in the day and in fact can get quite upset if I try feed her too often. She has reflux so can get uncomfortable if she takes on too much. Except for nighttime when it’s magic bloody milk which never fills her it seems
Agh!
This is why women stop BFing. I’m so tempted! I hate not being able to share this load with my lovely but unable to help husband. Fed for a year with my ds but I’m finding this so goddam hard
I need to stop the comfort feeding at night but no idea how - she won’t take a dummy, hates being swaddled and seemingly unlike the day needs to feed until she passes out.
it’s just a phase it’s just a phase... right?!

Same but twins and a toddler. I am like a zombie. It is indeed just a phase. Cosleep and bf lying down.

I try. I just don’t sleep well at all I get all contorted as she starfishes out and I have to squeeze myself between her and the oblivious lovely husband.
Feel you on the zombie ness.

Could the oblivious lovely husband sleep elsewhere?

I have the same problem. DD 4 months constantly waking up! This evening I gave her a big feed of expressed milk in a bottle as she can fall asleep while feeding easily. It worked well and she slept a bit longer!

At one point when she was about 8-12 weeks old she slept a whole 9 hours! Feels like we will never get that back.

Also, we sometimes co sleep (which I hate because I can never relax and find it extremely hard having a baby attached to me all night), DH sleeps in the spare room so we can have the whole bed.

I feel your pain. Currently cluster feeding my 11 day old DS. I'm a ftm and BF has been a massive shock to me. It's really bloody hard!

Also feeling your pain but no solutions! DS is four months, used to go down beautifully at 7 then wake once at 3, go straight back to sleep after feeding and then sleep until 6. Those days are gone... He's waking up every two hours but the bigger problem is that he isn't going straight back to sleep after feeding. He's always done that ever since he was born so I don't even know how to settle him now - I end up rocking him to sleep but it takes ages and I'm exhausted because even when he was a newborn I didn't use to get out of bed (we have a cosleeper cot) so my sleep wasn't this disturbed. He does sleep better nestled into me but I just can't do it - I fell asleep feeding him last night and woke up like that and for a minute I thought he wasn't breathing and I thought my heart might stop. I then spent ages lying awake beating myself up about what ifs. But every time I slide him into his cot from the bed he shouts. I know people say this too will pass but when?! I'm going back to work in January which I feel pretty mixed about anyway, but I just don't see how it can work if sleep is like this.

Another one with no advice but a handhold as I am almost broken with this regression. My dd is 5 months (4 months adjusted) and after her first 2 hour-ish stretch is attached to me all night. She is too interested to nap or feed much in the day and is generally pretty miserable.

It will pass though. I too understand why people give up bf at this point. It's bloody awful.

Hang in there ladies. I know it gets easier I just wish I could remember when
My two year old was a dream sleeper definitely by 9 months (we had to sleep train but don’t tell mumsnet) think this one will go the same way. Fingers crossed for a better night or else I’ll be checking in with you all about 2 am

Just wanted to say we are in the same position but at nearly 8 months. she wakes up every hour or two since she was four months. She isn't eating great in the day either and it is like she could drink all nightt. Im thinking of stopping soon as it's so draining 😪.

Here again. We have been up since 1:30 really all she seems to want is a chat! Christ I don’t see how she can have that much to tell me so so so so tired.

Sorry that you had another crap night ktd - we did too. At 4am I was in tears with DH saying 'no one but you will judge you for giving up breastfeeding' and saying he's worried about my mental health. I really don't want to stop breastfeeding, though (now, in daytime, after I've had a nap while DH took DS out!), but I am feeling very low/desperate at the moment - my nipples hurt from the constant feeding at night and I have no energy to do anything which is making me feel shit and like there's no me left any more. I lose my appetite when really tired which probably isn't helping with the energy but I can't really face food at the moment. On the plus side the baby weight is dropping off!

I find it comforting relating to other people's posts about their little ones!
I seem to comment to search for an answer myself but I don't think there is one. My DS has been doing this since 13 weeks and this has been going on for 2 months now.
He would go down with a struggle when he was tired and ready about 7pm, when I say struggle, he used to feed and then go down lovely but wake 10 seconds later in a panic and cry or just wave his arms round and kick his feet. Then he would wake all hours.. probably initially sleep 4/5 hours then wake every 1-2 hours. I would feed him at some point and he would go off for a few hours but I would get up a few times to put his dummy in or stroke his head.
Then last week he went down beautifully, settled himself off at 7pm and would wake between 2-3am for a feed then settle off until 6ish. The last few nights he's not settling off to sleep without a struggle to start with and he's started waking a lot more again.
I wondered today whether his teeth are starting to bother him a bit, but I honestly do not know. He is bottle fed but I don't think it's the feeding that's the issue. If it's sleep regression then I envy the people which babies only last a few weeks! This feels like it's going to go on forever..
Also, when he's waking constantly, the next day he is shattered, as am I, therefore he won't have his naps without a struggle and they only last 30 minutes! I feel guilty that he's so tired but I'm doing everything I can to help him sleep, it's just not working.
I'm really hoping my little one grows out of this soon as it breaks my heart when I can't get him to sleep through like he used to!