I can’t sleep when baby is in Moses basket!

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Dd is two weeks old, she’s not slept great from day one preffering to sleep on me or at least in bed with me. Since she was born I haven’t slept for more than two hours in one go and that is rare, I probably average about three hours sleep a night!
After some perseverance as I’ve been worried about the risks of co-sleeping (and really don’t want dp to have to keep sleeping on the sofa!) I’ve managed to get her to sleep in the Moses basket by a feeding and transferring when she’s in a deep enough sleep. She’s currently feeding for about two minutes then sleeping on me for 15 minuets then in the Moses basket for half an hour before she wakes again hungry! I’ve tried lots of ways to wake her up a bit so she feeds longer but nothing seems to work!
But my biggest issue is that I can’t seem to sleep when she’s in the Moses basket. It’s up right next to the bed so almost as close as cosleeping but I find I’m literally lying awake listening to her breathing and o matter how much I try to relax I can’t! I feel terrible because the last few nights the best sleep I’ve had has been from about 4am when she refuses to go back in the Moses basket and I fall asleep with her on my chest. It’s almost like it’s my separation anxiety stopping me sleeping not hers!

I do desperately want her to sleep in the Moses basket because I know this is the safest option but I’m struggling to understand how being so sleep deprived I can’t just sleep when she sleeps and I know she’s safe! Has anybody else felt like this or am I crazy?!

I think feeling like this is pretty normal. Either that, or we’re both crazy because I felt the same as you! Have you tried a next to me crib? It might help as you can still see the baby in it.

Also, Unicef released a new 2018 report on co sleeping and sids which breaks down the risks and might help you if you want to co sleep for longer www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendly/baby-friendly-resources/sleep-and-night-time-resources/co-sleeping-and-sids/

I remember feeling like this too. It's a bit of blur now but I remember feeling almost wired. I couldn't relax and sleep. I also remember waking up with my head almost in the moses basket and a stiff neck. Sorry no real advice from me. I found it gradually faded and I slept better. I agree with pp a next to me crib might help.

Totally normal to worry loads at this early stage. I was the same. Every noise my little one made woke me! The anxiety passes, trust me. In a week or two you'll have got more confident and will be able to relax.

I think this is an hormonal response by which a mother is programmed to respond to her baby. I remember being the same way, sleeping in the same room as my firstborn, if he moved my stomach flipped! I think it's a built-in response.

Are you sure she’s hungry when she wakes? It might be trapped wind waking her up after half an hour? I know it’s a pain but even if she wakes up after the feed when you’re winding her and it’ll take longer to get her back to sleep she should sleep for longer?

Thanks everybody for your replies!
Sizeofalentil thank you for the link, that’s an interesting read and makes me feel much better about co sleeping! I gave up trying to settle her in the Moses basket around 2 and put her next to me last night - she was asleep within a minuet and stayed asleep until 5! And I slept too so I think maybe for now co-sleeping is the way to go.
Its possible it’s wind Matilda1981 she’s ebf and doesn’t usually get much but I’ll try winding her before I put her down!