Traumatic

[AlpineButterfly]

DH is currently in settling 9mo DS2. He's usually bf to sleep and we have the whole human dummy situation. I hate hearing him cry. It feels traumatic for him and for me. I just can't continue being a human dummy

I don't have a baby so I can't offer any help, sorry. But I didn't want to read and run, so just so you know someone has read your thread. You're not alone or the only one awake rn.

HTH, keep strong :)

Try to remember it's the comfort he's reaching out for which your husband is giving. It'll take a bit of time but it will work. You'll need to be consistent though.. good luck

I couldn't listen to it any longer. It was actually making me sweat. I really hate hearing my babies cry. Funnily enough I'm immune to the toddler crying.

DH can put him to bed but ds2 definitely prefers me at night still. We're just at the point that cosleeping is disturbing him more than it's settling him

Hi. I had this too at 5.5 months. She started waking hourly cosleeping and after 6 weeks I was ready to jump off a bridge.

She's 10 months old now and has been in her own room since. Turns out she's a tummy sleeper and i think that's why she was so disturbed as she just wanted to roll over and i was in the way.

She wakes anything from 2 (a v good but rare night), to 6 times a night. Average is 3-4. Lately she's started waking up and resisting going back down. So rather than stand rocking her for an hour or two I take her into the spare room. She still takes an hour or two to settle but at least I can lie down and kind of rest. Lots of pulling hair, biting my fingers and rolling around goes on but there's something I can't stand about standing in her room rocking for ages at 3am!so thus sort of works for us. At the moment anyway.

My DH settles her on her first wakeup (usually after 45 mins), but often she just wants me and the boob.

It's so so hard but keep going. It will get easier and as long as someone she knows is there to comfort her it'll be ok. But it's hard. You're not on your own.

Meant to say I too can't stand hearing her cry. It's like someone is sticking a dagger right in my heart. It is so frustrating when they don't sleep but I can't bear hearing her cry. Look up the beyond sleep training project on Facebook. Found some really helpful info and support.

I can't do this any longer. I've spent 90 minutes in my own bed so far tonight - went to bed at nine! Every time I try to escape he cries. He screeched at DH for half an hour with no let up.

Half of me wants to throw this baby out the window and half of me wants to cry. I'm just laying here with my boob in his mouth.

I'm failing so badly at this

Oh gosh, been there and got the t-shirt. I think it was a little later (but wish I'd done it sooner) I had my dh do the night and I slept in the spare room with earplugs to break the cycle. They still got lots of cuddles and walking around and Co-sleeping, but no boob. A bottle of water for drinks. Took about 2 nights then much better. It's agony to hear the cries though

You're not failing!! It's such a frustrating time, I'm currently sat here feeding my 7 m/o back to sleep.

I'd give anything right now for 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep! You're not alone ...

Def not alone. Been up every 2 hours tonight with mine. Stay strong. And yep, feel you with the half and half window throwing crying feeling.

It's just so tough because the toddler is going through a waking phase also. Usually I do baby and DH does toddler. DH works ft and studies ft also so desperately needs to sleep.

It's just getting to a point that I can't do it any more. I feel awful for feeling so angry about it. I wish I never bf.

He's currently not distressed but is rolling around and I keep laying him down. I'm just thankful he's not latched. The light on my phone although turned down is probably too stimulating for him though

You'd think I hadn't done this before but it seems much harder with this one being bf