Sleepless nights and struggling

[MummaFlowers]

Hi,

I'm sure there are millions of parents having the same issue as me right now, but I feel so alone. My 6 month old son has been poorly with various colds, chest infections and throat infections since September. This consequently has caused massive problems for my baby at bed times. He falls asleep no problem, but anywhere from 11-2 then 3-6 he cries continuously and has horrible coughing fits. He is sleeping in a baby bouncer next to me to keep him upright. He can't lay down in his cot even with it raised as he slides sideways or to the bottom and or cries continuously. I'm at my wits end and I feel I'm at breaking point. I know he is so poorly and that is making me feel even worse as I'm wracked with guilt!

Sorry you’re struggling. Lack of sleep is a killer. I’ve no magic answer I’m afraid. Have you tried a humidifier / defuser in the room where your baby sleeps? You can put eucalyptus oil in - like vicks and may help with your sons breathing.
Only other thing I can think of - is it just linked to coughs and colds he’s upset or could he be intolerant to any foods if you’ve just started weaning. Thought I’d throw that one out there as happened to a friend of mine. Took months before anyone clicked but baby was totally out of sorts and crying loads and nothing much helped. I guess your son would be hard to settle during the day too, if that were the case.

Only other suggestion is to drop everything but essentials around the house and go to bed when he does. Is there anyone who can help you in RL?

Parent guilt is bad isn’t it, id tell you, not to feel guilty but it’s not that easy.

So sorry he is poorly and you're running on no sleep! I know it's not advised but my DD slept quite often in her swing when she was little and struggling with reflux as it kept her upright and the motion was soothing

Hi all,

I need some advice on getting my baby to sleep through the night in his cot.
He is nearly 9 months old and currently wakes anywhere between three - ten time a night.
He was sleeping next to me in our bedroom, but I have now moved him to his cot in his own room.
He didn't sleep well when he was next to me and wanted constant reassurance from his bottle and cuddles from me. Basically I made a rod for my own back!
How do I sort this out?
I have just sat outside his room for half hour listening to him cry himself to sleep and it's heartbreaking! Am I ok to do this if I am sat monitoring him? P.s he is now asleep.

Thanks in advance

9 months can be a bad time for sleep and some babies don’t sleep through until they are much older. I’ve found my ds wakes less frequently in the night if he’s had plenty to eat during the day and some fresh air. It does get significantly better once they’re moving round and exhausting themselves.
Personally I don’t leave mine to cry (I have tried it and I gave in after 2 hours) as it doesn’t work and then he’s so worked up he can’t sleep. Mine sleeps in bed with me and will often reach out for me in the night , know I’m there and nod back off, but that may not work for you.
With regard to the rod for your own back, you haven’t made one, he’ll sleep through and in his own bed soon. Some people use floor beds so you can lay down next to your child then sneak off once they’ve fallen asleep.