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9 months - awake for hours at night

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thingybobwotsit · 23/10/2018 09:31

Hello

I've already had several threads on this board as baby is a serial non sleeper - but wanted to post to see if anyone had any advice about this specific issue.

Baby is just turning 9 months. Has never slept through, we get anywhere between 2 and 6 wake ups a night, and generally start the day between 5-6.30.

For the last week or 10 days, we get frequent wake ups but at least one of these baby will now take 2/2.5 hours to resettle

He'll wake up, chat/moan for a minute, then start crying. I'll go in and feed him, he'll feed for a minute or 2, then start smiling, patting my face, and trying to climb on me. Not letting him do this will result in furious crying. Trying to put him back in the cot will result in furious crying. Not getting him out in the first place and trying to settle in the cot will result in furious crying. Eventually after HOURS I'll be able to get him to feed again, which is mostly just comfort sucking, and then he'll calm down and eventually fall asleep in my arms and I'll stick him back in cot. He'll then sleep for another couple of hours before another wake up or getting up for the day.

Other stuff... doesn't self settle. We were making some progress with this but he was an early mover and learning to crawl at 5 months put paid to that. He took his first steps about two weeks ago. Generally we hold him til he falls asleep. He naps twice a day... doesn't really show tired signs but sleeps when I put him down so I stick to a schedule. He goes down 9-ish, used to sleep for 1.5 hrs but was fighting his lunch nap so I've been reducing that to about 40 mins. Then again at 1/1.30-ish when he has 1.5 hrs. I don't let him sleep later than 3pm. I get the feeling he could probably go longer before going down in the morning but then I don't know how we'd fit his afternoon nap in.

Phew. Sorry for the long post. I'm exhausted. Could cope with frequent wakes OR long wakes OR early starts but all of them are turning into a sleep deprived wreck. Is this just the 9 month regression? Because he's learning to walk? Is he having too much daytime sleep or not at the right time (this is what google suggests but I can't see where I'd tweak it)? Anyone dealt with this and have any tips?!

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Catheroooo · 23/10/2018 10:55

Hey OP. We chat again! Still in sleep hell here too. No knowing advice just solidarity.

Is it worth trying to just see what happens if you let baby sleep for however long he wants for a week and see what happens?

Mine is waking frequently overnight again and now staying awake for am hour or so whereas before I had been blessed with a quick feed then straight back down. It's torture. She sleeps in in the morning to compensate which woukd have been great when on mat leave but I'm back at work. DH has her before he drops her off at nursery at 11 and the idea was so he could get her a decent morning nap at home as she fighrs sleeping at nursery but sleeping in late means she can only get a catnap at home.

Its so hard and just wanted to offer support. I'm crying lots at night knowing she's tired, I will be exhausted at work and it just feels like it will be like this forever. Nights feel so long and lonely.

Take care.

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