Just need hope

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Hope this will pass (I don't believe you anymore!). I've tried so many things but she just won't got to sleep easily. And when I get her to sleep she wakes up after 45 minutes. Tonight it was 20! Sometimes it is overtiredness but there have been times when she's slept for 6 hours and did 2 x 30 minute naps in the day.

I think in part she just needs me. She struggles getting through the first sleep cycle so wakes up and wants me.

I love her and of course I will be there for her but it is just so hard tired this getting better (And not when she's 4!). I'm back at work and exhausted. I'm bf and want to for as l9ng as poss and can't express so she can't stay at relatives for any length of time plus never settles at others houses. She won't sleep for longer than 45 mins in pram and 30 in the car. Oh and she's started being car sick too.

Once she's asleep I'm lucky to get 2 wake ups but usually it's 4... I'm spent.

How old is dd??
Try night weaning if you haven't already.
That worked for my first. I night weaned both my dds at 10 months and it did help my first. Second took till about 18 months to get the sleep message and was awful at 12 months... Now she's just 2 and sleeps well.

I carried on bf in the day till 15 mths. (morning and evening as was also back at work)

Yes OP I know how you feel. I don’t know what to do either. We forgot to put a sleep function in DD. It is the hardest F’ing thing ever to get her to sleep, I am irritable and exhausted. She feeds through the night then will barely nap (and only on me).

Some days I just feel like putting her on her play mat and running away.

Thank you. She's 10 months. She doesn't take much milk at nursery and I'm fairly sure there's some reversecycling going on. So im nervouse of night weaning yet. She is better withsolids but its still hit and muss espevialky st nursery. Shesalwats been a petite thing so i dont want to starve ger. Funny thing is I don't mind 1-2 wake ups post midnight but wake ups before really bother me. Especially the 45 minute after bed one. She wakes up crying and tired. I just don't get why. I know She can get through it. But almost every night for nearly 5 months is driving me bonkers. She's always been alert, never the sleepy type. We had 2days of sleepy after birth then she woke up! I just can't see how she will Ever sleep. I have to be home for naps. Getting her to sleep at nursery is hard. So much so that my partner and i have changed our hours so She only has to go 11-4 so we can try and get her a decent morning nap at home. Except for the last few days she's been waking at 8 am and not tired til 10-10 30 which scuppers her nap! Do I wake her at 7am or want her early from her nap?! I always wanted her to find her way without sleep training etc and not waking her when she's asleep but not sure what else...

Yes fair enough with night weaning. You know when they are ready. Mine didn't have milk at nursery just morning and evening bf from 10 mths but are well.

I personally feel that teaching them to sleep is important. Does she feed to sleep? If yes..Maybe first try stopping that. Bed time feed down stairs.. TV on. I did the last bf feed after night Garden. Then up stairs story's and in to bed. Then in and out every few mins reassuring and calming if need be.
Good luck... lack of Sleep is the hardest aspect of parenting.

Routine - yes I would wake but I liked my naps on time!

You will get there!!!! It will get easier... It's just a phase!

Sounds similar to my DD and you will know when the time is right for you but I did find that night weaning at 10m solved most of our sleep problems. It took three nights of broken sleep offering just water and lots of cuddles but it seemed then that there was nothing worth waking up for so she started sleeping longer stretches and we managed to stop co sleeping (was not getting any sleep that way anymore!) and now apart from teething and illness sleeps pretty well.. some early mornings though! So when you think you are both ready it may be worth giving it a good go! Good luck!

It sounds good but wish I had the confidence... did yours eat much solid food at that age?

Mine is a sensitive soul and am feeling guilty for returning to work so woukd feel awful doing any training. Not sure if waking for hunger, or comfort, or the usual teeth or illness etc.

God yes sleep is so hard! We had 5 days of bliss 2 weeks ago. Even a sleep though and only one wake up otherwise. I stupidly thought we'd cracked it.did nothing different! I have noticed shes picking up new words it seems everyday and is fascinated with her hands again so guess her little brain is on fire at the mo.

It is hard to decide to do.. my friend kept telling me to do it and I kept putting it off because I didn't feel I could do it to her.. and I did feel mean in the middle of those few nights when I know she would have fed and fallen asleep.. but I guess I felt that she really didnt need it for anything other than comfort..and I was there comforting her just without milk. And it did work so for us it was the right thing to do, a few nights like that for long term sleep gains for both of us.. because I really felt she wasn't getting enough sleep beforehand either with poor naps and poor night sleep. Her naps are better now too for the most part.

Shes a pretty good eater solids wise so I wasn't too concerned by that..though I did worry before I did it that she would be hungry but I didn't think that was the case in the end at all.

She had not long learnt to walk when I night weaned too so part of me wonders if it would have happened anyway with her being more active when she could walk but I think deep down it really was just waking for the comfort of feeding.

But it is so so hard.. every baby is different and we all parent differently too.. I just read loads, got lots of mixed messages and then just had to decide my own way.. some people wont mind lots of night feeds and stuff but I was on my knees. I was going back to work too and really couldn't face that on no sleep. I'm still feeding her in the daytime though. Trying to get down to one feed a day now shes over one but that isnt working very well! But I dont mind in the daytime so still just letting her have it when she wants most of the time in the day.

Oh and I did feed to sleep still to start with but she really quickly started going down awake after night weaning too. Sometimes she would grizzle for a bit after I laid her down but not for too long..but I had to learn to leave her and let her try and settle without me for those few minutes. That was hard too.. felt like forever at first when it had only been three or four mins! Now she rarely cries at bedtime.. naps are still a different matter.. working on it! But my friends and I all agree that overall as they have gotten older its gotten easier.. and I know we all say that with crossed fingers too! Anyway I have totally rambled on but still hope that you know you are not alone and I'm very sure it will get better whatever you decide to do or not do.

Thank you. I guess I'm going to have to do something as I can't go on like this with work.

She had 2 wake ups of an hour each last night and is still sleeping now. Which means I've got diddly squat hope of a nap before nursery and as She hates napping at nursery it's going to be a hard day and time when I pick her up.

What I don't get, is I've watched her settle herself this morning and she's been going nearly 5 hours, why can't she do this when she goes down?!