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1)No one else can put her to bed, and 2) could this be a symptom of sleep deprivation?

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mylittlefreya · 13/06/2007 18:56

Two questions, completely seperate, I hope it's ok to put them in the same thread.

My dd is nearly 6 months and will not let anyone but me, ie dp, put her to bed. She screams and screams and screams, I don't know when it would end, because I take her and she is soothed within a minute or two at most. Our bedtime routine is not, I don't think, too much of a problem - bath (she will let dp do this), bottle in the bedroom, then occasionally a bit of a snuggle, usually into the cot with a dummy, and I leave her to it. I usually have to go back to help put the dummy back once or twice (she sometimes lets him do that too).

I'm going to a conference next Friday and I won't be home til 9pm. DP works very hard, we usually have one family day a week, not always at the weekend, and he is trying to get home for bedtime at least one other night during the week. The last few weeks we've been practising whenever he's here for next Friday. No change.

I don't know what to do. I don't know whether to try leaving her with him (he's off on Saturday) and just see how long it takes, or whether it'll just be awful anyway and to leave them to it. Any suggestions???

The second thing is whether what happened today is a manifestation of sleep deprivation or whether it's something else?? I know sleep deprivation can do some pretty crazy things to you. I was on my way home today with dd in the pushchair. I remember being at the bus station. The next thing I remember is being on a bus, about a mile or so along the bus route. Thankfully, the correct bus, and thankfully dd was safely asleep in the pushchair. It was scary. Has anyone any experience of this happening? I am pretty chronically sleep deprived as I am sure many of you sympathise with, but no worse than usual. I am just hoping it doesn't happen again.

Thank you for any help.

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TheDaVinciCod · 13/06/2007 18:57

the rule of kids is that you make all the plans and rules and tell the babysitter ?MIl all abotu them
thenthey suss oyu arent there and do whatever the stand in wants

Cammelia · 13/06/2007 18:59

agree with cod

mummynumnum · 13/06/2007 21:02

My dd is very similar and going out tomorrow and have same anxiety and I find it very hard to say to dh just deal with it. i know that is not very helpful to you, but hopefully it will make you feel better that you are not the only one.

TheAccidentalParent · 12/07/2007 17:18

Just to deal with the second part of your question. You had what is called a dissociative experience, where your body sat on the bus, but your conscious mind went off somewhere else. They are very common experiences, and do typically happen when people take very familiar journeys - eg walking to school, driving to work. Some people are much more prone to them then others.

I am a psychiatrist and can assure you they are not any sign of mental illness.

It is also extremely unlikely that anything unsafe would happen. For instance, if someone tried to walk off with your puschair you would immediately notice and your consciousness would come speeding back to deal with the situation.

I am not sure of any link with sleep deprivation.

Hope this reassures you.

Beachcomber · 15/07/2007 11:05

I am pretty sleep deprived (13 month old who wakes several times a night) and I have had a couple of experiences very similar to yours. Now I know what they are called!

Horrible feeling I know but I agree with Accidental that you would snap out of it if anything happened that required your attention.

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