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15 week old waking up when I put her down

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MeadowHay · 08/10/2018 11:05

DD only really does short naps in the daytime - it can be anywhere from 10 mins to 1hr but most average about 30-40 minutes. She can't fall asleep alone so is always held to sleep, with rocking and/or patting and/or walking around until she's very drowsy then just held til she drops off. We tend to wait til we think she's out for the count until we put her down, and she has a dummy, but the last week or so probably 70% of the time she is waking as soon as we put her down. She would stay asleep longer if we held her but especially if I'm on my own in the daytime, I can't keep a hold of her all the time or I'd never eat or get a chance to shower or make up her bottles or anything! Sometimes you can resettle her with her dummy and patting once she's down but about 70% of the time she gets wide awake seemingly instantly and starts smiling and kicking about and so you have to pick her up and start all over again. It also always takes between 20 minutes and 1hr to get her to sleep in the first place, from when I see tired cues, and the 45min+ sessions of trying to get her to fall asleep are becoming more and more frequent.

I know the short naps at this age is developmental and normal but if I can't put her down at all for them this is becoming a problem Confused. I don't know how to teach her to fall asleep elsewhere, I've tried loads of times and she will sleep on the move in the carseat or pram or carrier but not if stationary in Bednest/pram carrycot/anywhere, she just fights and fights it and gets more and more ratty until she starts to properly cry and cry and then I won't leave her distressed but it just takes even longer to get her to sleep if she gets in a state. Any tips? I have tried waiting longer whilst she is asleep on me btw, sometimes I can hold her for like 20 minutes but as soon as I put her down she still wakes up!

She is a good sleeper on a night, it's just the daytime napping that is tough.

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SpoonBlender · 08/10/2018 11:12

It's perhaps not the direction that you want to go, but have you tried a sling?

HelenMummyof2 · 08/10/2018 13:22

I think time is the key here..... my DD was exactly the same at 15 weeks but is slowly getting easier to put down, she’s now 20 weeks. I do end up holding her whilst she sleeps a lot but it’s certainly better than it was!!

MeadowHay · 08/10/2018 17:30

Spoon We have a Close sling and a Baby Bjorn but never really got on with the sling, so fiddly to put on. She loves being in the Baby Bjorn and I do use it sometimes and she does usually sleep in it, but it's awkward to sit down with her in it cos of her legs getting in the way, and I find it awkward to do a lot of jobs with her in it, like I can't really bend with her in it on my front properly so couldn't empty the dishwasher or do laundry, and wouldn't feel safe to cook or something. So doesn't really solve the problem for me.

Helen Glad to hear it gets better at least!

I just had a success of getting her to fall asleep on the floor padded out with blankets and stuff Shock. Might just be a one-off but feeling chuffed nonetheless Grin.

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SpoonBlender · 09/10/2018 00:00

Hurrah - more of this sort of thing!

PassMeMyRedBag · 09/10/2018 00:06

If her naps are short as you say, I'd just hold her. I do the things you mention (eat, shower etc) when my baby is awake, as she'll happily be put down then for short periods between playing. I think it creates more stress to fight it, and as you say you're then back to square one with her waking up and having to go back through the routine again. Is she sleeping in her cot at night?

MeadowHay · 09/10/2018 11:53

Pass The thing is, I can't leave her down awake to do things, she cries, she needs to be entertained 100% of the time she's awake. I can sometimes buy 20 mins once or twice a day with her in the bouncy chair watching TV but that's it, and sometimes not even then if I'm not there to bounce her and put the dummy in when she wants it Hmm. Otherwise I see what you're saying completely but I try leaving her and after about 5 mins or so she is crying! So I don't really have any choice but to do things when she's asleep or nothing gets done at all. Yes she sleeps fab in her Bednest at night! We have a vague accidental evening routine where she has a bottle around 5/6pm, then fall asleep around 7-9.30pm, fall asleep on one of us and then after awhile we transfer her to her pram carrycot to stay in the living room with us, then get her up for another small feed and nappy change etc then she falls asleep on us again and is usually settled in her Bednest somewhere between 10 and 11pm. She is sometimes waking when we place her in the Bednest but with some patting and dummy etc she goes back off again. Then she sleeps until around 7 or 8am but she does wake between 1-3 times a night for her dummy and a quick pat to resettle her but never takes more than about 5 mins. So she's a fab night sleeper for her age really, it's just the daytime naps that are a nightmare!

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Mummyme87 · 09/10/2018 12:52

Still struggling with this at 9months.

MeadowHay · 09/10/2018 16:09

Argh no, mummy! You're putting the fear of God in me Grin. At 9 months I will be back to work at leas 4 days a week though so...maybe nursery will sort it out Confused.

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crazycatlady5 · 09/10/2018 20:57

I held mine for most naps that weren’t in the sling or buggy until 6 months old and she always cat napped (30-45 minutes) until she hit a year and now she does 2-3 hours.

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