When to tackle night times for 1 year old with a tough few weeks ahead

[Jellybabie3]

My DS is now 1. He isnt a good sleeper - never has been, and thats something I have just lived with as I am not prepared to do anything like CIO and gentler methods havent worked beyond any bout of teething/illness. But now I need some advice as I am due back to work in a couple of weeks, part time (3days a week). Apologies....this is a long one.

DS naps OK 2x with a longer nap typically in the morn. He needs a cuddle to go to sleep day and night. He only feeds in the morn, bedtime and once in the night. However he is currently waking every 2 hours. He comes into bed with me at around 5-6 am where he has his morning feed, then may sleep til 8am.

Reasons for not tackling the nights and night weaning sooner...

Bad silent reflux since birth which hasnt gone. He is now booked for a pH test (box fitted by a tube through his nose for a day to investigate possible causes.

As a result of his reflux I was warned to not let him cry excessively as there is a risk he could vomit and choke. Hence why I have never made vigorous attempts to sleep train and have accepted he will learn when ready.

Hes down to one night feed but as a result of the reflux he doesn't eat much actual food in the day either so I havent tried to drop this yet. However I am now aware the calories are no longer sufficient and he has already dropped two percentile lines so I have been advised to drop the night feed to try and encourage more food. His weight is the second reason for the upcoming hospital trip.

I would now like to try and stop the night feed in the hope he sleeps a little better and eats happily for my rtw. However I am worried about the reflux implications plus he is starting settling in sessions tomorrow (6 over 2 weeks) has his 1 year jabs Wednesday and then has his hospital trip in a few weeks. All of this I anticipate will result in him being extra clingy and maybe want to comfort feed. He literally screams when I leave the room atm and even Daddy cant comfort him. I am not looking forward to these settling in sessions...

So any advice how I tackle this? Or do I attempt to ride it out and admit defeat that I will return to work very tired....any advice gratefully received.

Thanks

I would wait until you have been back to work for a few weeks as his sleep pattern with change.

Do you have a partner? Can they cosleep with him for a bit? When you are back to work go back to napping when he does when you are at home.

Thanks. I think you are right I am not going to worry too much about the sleep but last night tried to cut out the last night feed. He usually goes to sleep at 7.30ish (is fed then cuddled and laid down) and wakes every 2 hours but wants the feed around 2-3am. This morn I held him but not feed him and he was grumpy for 2 hours.... Brought him in our bed for his morning feed at 5am and he slept til 7am. Low and behold he ate 2x as much breakfast if not more so although I feel bad it is the right thing to do for him to try and gain weight.

Fx tonight is better.

I could try napping when he naps but it didnt work when he was little. But with work too I may be more exhausted I guess