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What age to put baby up to bed...

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Tweetypie95 · 07/10/2018 21:35

Hi, FTM here...

My newborn is 9weeks old, he falls asleep around 9pm give or take downstairs with us. Then either wakes up when we move upstairs and we give him his last feed or we dream feed about midnight.

I don’t know if this is a stupid question but is he too young for us to put him up to bed at 9pm with the baby monitor?

NHS guidelines say baby should sleep in the same room as you day and night up to 6months ... but is this really practical?

When did you start putting baby up to to bed before yourselfs?

Thank you!

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Pittcuecothecookbook · 07/10/2018 21:37

We started putting our baby up to bed with the monitor on at 3 months. As you say, it wasn't practical to keep her downstairs with us so late at night so we weighed up the risks.

UpsyDaisysarmpit · 07/10/2018 21:40

About 5-6 months, with both of mine. Until them I kept the carrycot downstairs and they slept in that (OR in Drs case, in my arms which were supported by a did get pillow, while we watched TV). I would them take them up with me (DP would bring up the Moses basket, and then at the stage they were too big I just took them up for a last feed and then put in the cot).

reetgood · 07/10/2018 21:49

We had a Moses basket downstairs and a bed nest upstairs- he woke about every two hours so wasn’t too difficult to accommodate. One of us might go up to bed early leaving the other downstairs. We started moving him upstairs around 7 months

Beansprout30 · 07/10/2018 21:51

I probably could have put my dd2 upstairs early from about a month ago, however she's just hit the four month regression and I feel there's no point right now as I will be up and down the stairs trying to resettle her. I'm going to try at about 5.5 months, I'm usually on my own studying downstairs so baby doesn't really get disturbed

mamaintraining · 07/10/2018 21:54

My little one has been sleeping in her own room with baby monitor on since she was 9 weeks old (about to be 5 months now)

MeadowHay · 08/10/2018 11:15

DD is only 16 weeks but we still keep her downstairs with us. She sleeps roughly 7-9.30ish on an evening, she fall asleep on one of us so we either just keep a hold of her if just sitting watching telly or put her in the pram carrycot in the living room with us (although she has very nearly outgrown this but we have a cradle in the dining room so she will go in there soon I guess). We then wake her up around 9.30ish anyway for a nappy change and a little feed, then when she's all done we settle her back to sleep on one of us again, and then once she's in a proper sleep carry her upstairs to her Bednest, she's usually all sorted for bed in there sometime between 10 and 11pm and then we sort ourselves out and any last minute tidying/bottle washing we need to do and then go to bed ourselves. I don't see how it would be any easier to have her upstairs from the start, as we'd want to wake her anyway for a feed and nappy change and I'd rather be downstairs with a brew watching Netflix whilst I feed her etc than upstairs doing nothing in the dark in our bedroom. This works for us quite well as she's then been sleeping through til roughly 7/8am with about 2 brief wakings for a resettle and dummy most nights since being around 8 weeks old.

Reccy2018 · 08/10/2018 11:54

Since about 12 weeks, baby has been put to sleep upstairs in next to me about 8pm with monitor on. We then watch a film and go to bed at 10.30pm. We are lucky though as ours is sleeping through until 7am at the moment so we don't do a dream feed or nappy change when we go to bed. She's 16 weeks now so not expecting that to last much longer! We will still put her upstairs at her bedtime though as it's lovely to have a snuggle on the sofa together as a couple and have one eye on the monitor, rather than someone holding her.

Lazypuppy · 08/10/2018 20:40

@Tweetypie95 i put my baby to bed upstairs without us around 6 weeks (moses basket in our room) and she went in her own room at 8 weeks

ClaireFraser · 08/10/2018 20:53

The guidelines of baby having all daytime naps/nighttime sleep in the same room as you are there to help reduce the risk of SIDS.

Young babies can't regulate their breathing in the same way an older child/adult can, and being able to hear your breathing/general noise helps them regulate their breathing to yours and stops them going into too deep a sleep.

Your baby and therefore your decision OP but I would suggest having a look on the The Lullaby Trust website so you can make a fully informed decision

Both of my two (DD now 3 and DS 10mo) had all their sleeps in the same room as us. I have many a fond memory of evenings spent snuggling a sleeping baby on the sofa 😍. Enjoy it, they're tiny for so short a time in the grand scheme of things. Personally I find it harder once they're upstairs and you're up and down all evening trying to settle them.

SnowWhite26 · 09/10/2018 20:08

I have a 6 week old who currently has witching hour some nights. Do you think putting him to bed would stop this?x

INeedNewShoes · 09/10/2018 20:17

I started putting DD to bed upstairs on her own from around 4 months but my house is small and I would be busy cooking, clearing up, clattering around so the house was far from silent.

I had planned to keep DD downstairs with me until 6m as per the current advice but she wasn't a snuggly baby and very clearly just wanted me to bugger off and leave her in peace!

HerSymphonyAndSong · 09/10/2018 21:42

My son has been put down in the bigger cot since about 17 weeks as he learnt to roll and was scrabbling at the sides of the pram cot (for downstairs sleeping) and sidecar crib and getting upset. I sleep in the same room as his big cot but he goes down at about 7pm and our house is tiny and noise from us in the sitting room carries well into the room where he is sleeping. I also periodically potter about upstairs tidying and putting away washing etc, sometimes I read or study in his room, so he is well supervised

LisaSimpsonsbff · 09/10/2018 23:11

We started putting DS upstairs at 10 weeks. I did and do fret about not following the SIDS guidelines, but he kept waking up crying everytime there was a loud noise (ie anything happening on the TV, or two plates being stacked on top of each other!). We spent a week of evenings sat in a nearly dark living room reading our books in total silence before admitting that this was a bit stupid. I asked the health visitor and she said she couldn't officially say it was ok but that in practice it's what nearly everyone does.

c24680 · 13/10/2018 22:14

I started bringing my DD up to bed at 7:30pm as she wouldn't settle downstairs, she would fall straight to sleep in her cot once upstairs and sleeps right through until 7am.

I have a video baby monitor and I check on her regularly, my house is quite small as well so I'd hear her crying.

c24680 · 13/10/2018 22:14

Meant to say DD was 10 weeks when I started bringing her upstairs

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