dd still sitting self up in cot and screaming at bedtimes

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she's been doing this now for 4-5 weeks. she used to be ok at going to sleep with a good routine followed by a bit of singing, little bit of grizzling and then off to sleep. since she's learnt to sit up it's been a nightmare. she'll sing for a bit, then sit herself up then the screaming starts. i've tried everything i can think of - going in quickly to lie her down without talking, going in with cuddles first then lying down, singing/rocking and even leaving her for up to 10 mins at a time. dh thinks we should just leave her and she'll soon work it out for herself. some mums at babygroup said they did the same. just tried with her lunchtime nap but it was hard not to go in at all so went in evry 5 mins or so. she did eventually go to sleep but prob helped by the fact she didn't have a morning nap today. still took 40 mins. she's def tired when I'm putting her down. she's 11 mths

help! i know it's "just a phase" but i really hate bedtimes at the mo. has anyone else any experience of this please???

sorry it's a bit of a ramble

My dd is 10.5months and we have been through exactly the same. She used to be brilliant at sleeping, day and night, and then at 7 months turned into a real handful. We struggled at every sleep to get her to relax, like you for upto 45 mins, and I couldn't understand the change in her behaviour. It was exhausting, and you have my sympathy. Two weeks ago we gave her a dummy out of desparation, and haven't had a problem since. She is back to sleeping 12 hour nights, and for naps I just pop her in her cot, give her the dummy, and 2 minutes later she's asleep. I don't like dummies, but I like being shattered less, and it is strictly foer sleeps only. Hope things improve soon

thanks - we got rid of her dummy at 8 months and her sleeping improved then! i have been tempted i must admit. but after what we went through to get rid of it i think i will resist (for now).

As an anti rouitne mum, I will just say what has worked for us.

We decided before our first was born that we would just let the children dictate. That may sound crazy, but it has really worked for us.
We have set meal times, but other than that it is as and when. Often DS would appear tired so I put him into his cot and he had a nap, no fuss, no stress. Somedays he skipped the nap.He has now fallen into his own routine, and we are doing the same with DD