Routine for 9 week old - please share your routines!

[Laur2017]

Hey fellow Mumsnetters,
Needing advice on how to get my 9 week old DS into a better day/night routine. He's breastfed, and feeds about every 2 hours in the day, and at night he has managed 4 hours but that is always from about 8-1am, and from then onwards he wakes every 2 hours!
What's everyone's nap routine in the daytime? If he's been napping for more than a few hours do you wake him to feed so he knows it's day? Please share your routines or any advice on how to get more sleep at night! Thanks in advance :)

Unfortunately in my experience 9 weeks is far far too early to be expecting any kind of routine. We did go through a phase of waking baby thinking she would sleep better at night but it was a false economy. Sleep breeds sleep!

Think she was about 5 months before we were able to put her to bed at night and expect a decent stretch

I've been really lucky with my 14 week dd, she's regularly sleeping through now but at 9 weeks we were sleeping as she needed.

We started a bed routine by popping her in a grobag for her last (downstairs) feed, v low light, no talking and burp cuddling her to sleep and then putting her in a spare crib downstairs when she fell asleep & taking her up when we went to bed (feeding if she woke). She now has the final feed and goes straight to the upstairs crib with the baby monitors on.. (I'm only up right now as boobs are full as I had a couple of drinks last night).

I already miss the quiet night feeds we used to have so don't stress if your LO doesn't have a picture perfect routine, it'll come x

Never had a routine with either of mine, I couldn't tell you how often they fed or napped at that age, I just went with the flow.

They do eventually get themselves into a pattern.

I think you need to at least get out of the first three months (the fourth trimester) before you try for a routine. And I say this as someone who really needs a structure to their day and struggles with the newborn days! DD1 was in a good routine around 5 months (chronic catnapper until then) and at 4 months DD2 is "on" one now (although frequently "forgets" it ).

Where I currently live (not in the UK) there is a saying about letting the baby be the boss for the first 100 days.

Congrats on the baby

My DC2 is 9 weeks, and kind of had to get into a routine due to school runs!
Bedtime between 10pm and 11pm. Wakes for a feed between 3am and 5am. Back to sleep until 7am.
Up between 7 and 8 for a 30 min feed.
Sleeps on the school run 8am generally till about half 10, if he's still napping I wake him then for a feed. He won't sleep again till school run at 3. Then awake by 5, till bedtime. :) hope this helps in some way?

Agree with pp, it's too early for a routine. Read up on the fourth trimester and give your baby what it needs. You must have known having a baby would mean less sleep?!

@tlmummy that's not very helpful, is it? Your post comes across as very smug - I hope that's not how you intended it.

OP Mine is 16w and we have the following:

Awake 7am
Nap 9-10.30
Nap 12.30-2.30
Nap 4.30-5
Bathtime 5.45
Feed 6
Feed 7
Bedtime 7.30

She'll only sleep 30 minutes on her own, so I sleep with her after that in a rocking chair. And when her sister is not at nursery, it's mostly in the front pack!

Thank you for the (mostly) positive comments and advice! @Limpshade, that sounds interesting, which country is that?

I'm in Singapore (amongst a largely Chinese community).

All the comments are positive OP - there's no criticism! Babies this age don't need routines yet.

I don't think I've been unhelpful, just possibly a bit blunt. I've told op it's too early for a routine and to research the fourth trimester... I found reading up on the fourth trimester a game changer as it all suddenly seemed to make sense.

I genuinely don't understand people who have a baby and then expect to get their 8 hours of sleep every night. Yes the beginning is hard, yes you're tired all the time, yes sleep deprivation is a bitch, but it comes with the territory of parenthood and shouldn't really surprise people

I've always always just noticed how long they can stay awake for and roughly how long they like to sleep for, and structure the day around that. It generally changes every 6-8 weeks till they're over 6 months but every child is different. Feeding issues can affect it hugely, the size and weight of them and also if they start being clever (rolling etc) or if they love a dummy. If they hate dummies or are a bit fickle it can be a tad harder to tell what's up with them, around 10-12 weeks they start to cry when bored.