My baby wants to "cry it out"

[MattLeBlancVest]

My 13 month old has decided over the last few bed times she doesn't want her dummy, doesn't want to be rocked or fall asleep on the bottle i realise thats naughty and bad for teeth but whatever gets her to sleep for now

She wants to lie in bed and scream and cry herself to sleep. Me trying to help her in anyway makes her really angry.

I've been proper thrown by this. I suppose it's because she's so different to DD1 who was is a limpet.

I would love to hear other people's experiences in it. Or just my odd kid?

TIA.

Bloody app. It never puts my paragraphs in.

If you stay with her and pat her then she is not crying it out. Crying it out is leaving her by herself.

DD went through a phase of crying to sleep while I rocked her. Like my DD is sounds like your is over tired.

My DD is exactly like this, my presence only makes it worse. She has been like that since about the same age and still is now at 20 months. I let her get on with it. If she stands up I go back in, give her a kiss and sit her down, some time repeatedly, but getting her out, shhhing, rocking makes no difference and if anything prolongs the ordeal.

My dd is just 17 months and is like this. But after a little bit of crying she gags and is sick so I end up trying to console her any way I can to prevent it. So difficult.

For what it's worth, when children are like this, and both mine are, I personally feel comfortable leaving them. I know there is the debate that cortisol levels rise and it's bad for the baby etc, but my personal opinion on that is that evolutionary speaking, if crying for prolonged periods of time caused permanent harm (and there is no solid evidence for this in terms of long term damage), it wouldn't be a babies sole form of communication, as inevitably babies cry, sometimes for short period, sometimes for long periods. It would be a pretty defective species quality if our only form of communication as a baby could permanently harm us, especially given how we lived many thousands of years ago (is without baby monitors, food on tap, clean water etc).

I know that's an unpopular opinion, but it's how I feel and I am comfortable with that. My babies are happy, healthy and confident.

Thanks all. I really appreciate your responses.

I just sit in the room and don't engage with her. But she does kick off if I leave the room so at least she knows I'm there.

PP mentioned she is over tired and she probably is. It always seems to be a rush, Tea, bath then bed time. So I probably need to get her to bed earlier.

Got her to bed an hour earlier than usual. She is now 2 hours later finally asleep after not knowing what she wants.

Lots of screaming, crying when I don't pick her up and the same when I do.

So fed up. And tired.