Is this the 4 month sleep regression?

[Northernbeachbum]

DS is almost 4 months and has gone from sleeping through to waking up starving hungry 3-4 times a night! Hes not woken this often in a very long time and we're shattered!

Could be. From what I've read on wonder weeks there is a developmental leap at this time so he could genuinely be hungry.

He does seem ravenous, struggles to stay awake to eat as much as he wants then goes back to sleep. He's sleeping about 4/5 hrs before his first wake up (falls asleep around 7/8) but then every 2 hours hes waking hungry

Can anyone advise what i can do, we're all shattered here including DS. How do i teach him to self settle? Hes already swaddled, in a sleepyhead, with white noise and in a dark room and wont take a dummy

He either feeds to sleep or requires rocking to sleep so im assuming that is the issue overnight......but how do you fix it?

I’m afraid you ride it out. It’s really hard and I understand that but there’s nothing you need to do about it, he cannot self settle he is tiny and needs you to respond to all of his night wakings.

As above - it’s tough, especially when you’ve got used to a good sleeper, but he’s too young to self settle and this phase will pass so you just have to ride it out. I started going to bed really early at the same time as my dc when they were 4 months just to ensure I got enough sleep!

Ah it is tricky but PP is right. 3-4 wake ups is average in this house and mine is 9 months old! I've never had sleep throughs and at that age it was hourly wake ups.

You're doing great, by attending to his needs you're creating a great bond. It is hard especially as you had a taste of sleep throughs but it will pass.

Ah ok, i thought by this age i was being vad helping him get to sleep

Make that bad

I still help my 20 month old get to sleep and will do until she decides she doesn’t need it 🤷‍♀️

Phew, ive been happily doing whatever is needed but keep reading that the 4 month sleep regression is partially due to his inability to self settle.

I like our cuddles before bed so im glad i dont need to give them up

I feel you. We are in the excate same position. I text my husband TODAY saying its just a phase, we need to ride it out. This was after he left for work and we had got up maybe 6 times in the night for LO

I'm still there too. Hoping it will get better

Its so so tough isnt it! Im trying to nap in the day when he does but my napping skills arent the best

Sounds like the 4 month sleep regression - identical to what we had.

We used the pause method, where you give your DS a few minutes to see if they are genuinely hungry, or if they are just unsettled. If the crying escalates into a hungry cry then you feed, if not you let them get themselves to sleep.

For our DD that meant they went back to just one feed per night. But they didn't sleep through again until they went onto solids at 5.5months.

Weirdly mine has started a half hour nap at some point after 8. Hopefully it will extend to the point where she has a sensible bedtime.

Ive been trying your pause method thelastsaola but he just cant self settle and ends up worked up either way

Hes going down for the night around 8 though