Help please!!!

[GiveMeAllTheGin8]

I need help

Dd 6 months is not a great sleeper.
Since 8 weeks, myself and my husband have taken it in turns to bring her up to bed at 7pm while the other brings dd1
It was manageable up to a month ago where baby would have bottle ,rock to sleep and go into cot. She would generally stay there for a few hours and wake twice for feeds until the morning. All manageable.
Before she got worse she actually got better sleeping until 4am then having a bottle and sleep till 6.
It has gotten progressively worse.

We are now at the stage where she will not go in the cot( when I say cot I mean the sleepyhead in the cot)

My husband brings her up at 7pm and she sleeps on him until 9.30 won't I come up. She then co sleeps with me but basically only in my arms so it makes for a very uncomfortable night:

We have made the cot into a side car cot and she will wake 60 seconds after I roll her over.

I need her to even stay in the cot for the first couple of hours during the night as myself and my husband basically don't see each other as he is in the spare room now.

My first was an amazing sleeper and still is, I'm actually shocked at the difference between her two!

PLEASE HELP me figure out a way to make dd more comfortable in her cot!

Extra info- took sleepyhead out when we side cared ( is that a word?!) the cot

We have white noise

Naps in car seat on school run and have to put her in to bed beside me for naps as refusing to go in cot

Have used the hot water bottle trick

Have put my top in so she can smell me 🙄

She's in a gro bag

Drinks two 7 ounce bottles during the night and wakes when dd1 comes in about 6.30/6.45

Black out blind up

I need gin

Essay

I remember mine become a rubbish sleeper after he outgrew the sleepy head! Will she sleep better if you try her back in that?

We bought the bigger one for her! She's a big baby and outgrew the smaller one.
I'm stuck here in the room, everytime I try to put her down she wakes up😭

I had this with my youngest I bit the bullet and started to put her down awake and just stay with her till she went to sleep. It wasn't perfect but was better than holding her while she slept and eventually I was able to put her in the cot and walk away. I had alway put my babies down to sleep awake and it worked so well for the other 3 I don't know how I got into the spending hours getting her to sleep.

You could try some controlled crying, the gentle variety

@adviceonthepox did she cry when you were beside her?
I tried it once and she was devastated, I picked her up after about three seconds 😬

I can't have her crying too much cos I don't want her to wake up the five year old

@seaToski I don't like the idea of it but tbh I can't go on like this. My husband is out tonight and I'm stuck with the baby on me and I can't even go to the toilet or she wakes up screaming

Does she need to go down at 7pm? Where does she sleep during the day?

Yes down at 7pm

She sleeps in the car seat for school run - 30 mins

Then two hours after she wakes I bring her into my bed and she sleeps for 90 mins

She either has one or two 30 min naps in the afternoon depending on if she slept the 90 mins.

They are either in her buggy, car seat or bed.

She always napped in the sleepyhead but woke after 30 mins. It's only recently she has started sleeping longer for second nap

Sorry I misread, she doesn't really need to but my 5 year old goes up then so makes it easier. By that time she is wrecked but would easily wake after 30 mins and stay up if I wanted her too.
You think I should put her down later?

Maybe try her in her bed for naps to start off with to try get used to it then hopefully in time she will sleep there all the time. Only later if she isn't tired but if she is then it's maybe just getting used to the bed

Thanks, yes I might try doing the naps first . She's such an easy baby during the day so she obviously makes up for it at night , my first was on the go and still is from the moment she came home from the hospital but was such a good sleeper! I don't know which I prefer 😬

Yes she did and I had a just 1 year old when she was born which is how I ended up with a child that couldn't sleep unaided! I was always doing everything the opposite to what I had done with the others so she wouldn't wake my other baby. When I decided that I had been stupid for long enough I decided to have the cot right next to the bed and I would lie down next to her holding her hand and talking to her or smoothing her hair. It took a while and to begin with it was over an hour every night getting her to sleep. Eventually it got easier and I was so happy when it got down to only 20 mins. After about 6 weeks I was able to put her down and walk straight out. I had to settle her a lot in the night right up until she was about 2 1/2 and I still get off night now and she's 4!
I despair of all the silly things I did to keep her sleeping, I regularly sat up for hours holding her and I can't get over that after having 3 other children I was so bloody stupid. My 3rd child soon got used to the noise of her I don't know what I was I thinking tbh

I would ditch the cot altogether and either cosleep or put her on a floor bed (google Montessori floorbeds)

gentle controlled crying 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮