Settling a 3 week old baby at bedtime

[SnowWhite26]

I recently wrote on here about my unsettled 2 week old throughout the evening. This is still the case but frustratingly he wont fall asleep on final bottke before bed. Has his bottle then fusses for ages. He is so over tired from the rest if the evening. Anybody got any suggestions? We take him into our room with lights low and white noise. Thankyou

It’s such early days at 3 weeks he probably doesn’t even know it’s night time , the fact he doesn’t fall asleep on bottle is probably good as you don’t want a feed to sleep habit ,8 months on I am still trying to crack that habit. Keep the lights low , white noise etc the Routine will Hopefuly soon click with him. When you put him down does he fuss a little or scream ? My baby would and still does scream when put down I would say If he only fusses a little keeping picking him up and patting him then putting him back down until he falls asleep

At 3 weeks old, he has no concept of bedtime. Sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear!

When he fusses, is he being laid down flat after a feed? Could it be reflux or something like that causing him discomfort?

At this age I was still feeding and cuddling mine to sleep. There was no bedtime really. It was feed, cuddle and sleep. Then repeat every few hours.

We don't want to feed them to sleep?! Oops I obviously did three babies really wrong...

I think three week olds don't really get bedtimes, they just get hungry/tired/uncomfortable! DD would only fall asleep on her front on my chest at that age. I tried everything, even bought a fancy swinging baby hammock! Nope, just mummy would do. Drove me mad at the time but it didn't last long really, just felt like it!

As abwe at 3 weeks we basically fed, winded, changed nappy, cuddled and baby went to sleep for a bit then the same again all day and night. It does get easier.

At 3 weeks old you kind of have to just relinquish any previously held ideas about 'bed time'.

The baby doesn't know that is the final bottle and it's bedtime.

Poo
Eat
Wind
Sleep
Repeat

And so forth until they start to wake up a bit around 3 month sleep old

Hi. Thanks for replies. I get the above. I suppose its thats hes so much more fussy all evening and isjust awake screaming. Hes so tired by my bedtime i feed him and he finds it hard to settle. He fights sleep all evening! So the feed wind sleep cycle works bar 730-11ish every evening :( x

Hi, evenings are fussy time for babies. It’s hard. My lone 10 weeks now and from 7 weeks he started going down for bedtime. Before then it was impossible and I stressed myself out trying to make him. I would keep trying and eventually he will get that it is bedtime. The evening fussiness normally peaks around 6/8 weeks (which I appreciate feels like forever away right now).
How does he sleep once down?

I know it’s hard but this is fairly normal newborn behaviour. What time are you trying to put baby to bed? It’s very normal for newborns ‘bedtime’ to be as late as 10-11pm in the early days

Your baby does not yet have any sense of day or night, or really that they should be outside of you at all. Keep them with you, hold them, cuddle and wind them.

I didn't think I'd ever get to the point I am now where DS, bar last night as he's coughing a lot, would want to be put in his cot, on his own and go to sleep. But he has. And I held him, cuddled, fed, rocked,, patted, sang, for as long as any of those worked and seemed wanted. I now feel like a spare part at his bedtime! But he's 14 mo

He was very calm tonight still had random crys andvcat napped through out evening but then took one big bottle of milk and fell fast asleep and i put him with his my hummy to bed by 9.45. So we will see. Fingers crossed. I am slowly learning the cues to tiredness hunger and want of cuddles in the evening . Thanks for ur help.