So baby is 12 weeks and clearly starting to develop a real dummy dependency. She is quite a cry-y baby and suffers from problems with wind when we're not up-to-date with the Infacol and is particularly cry-y then. She's not as bad as say the first 7 weeks or so but still cries quite a lot. She is also really sucky although this is our first so I dunno if it's more than other babies or the same. When I was EBF she was almost always fed to sleep, now she's formula fed and almost always needs the dummy to fall asleep. Sometimes she is fed to sleep still but then on those occasions she usually wakes up in a panic once I place her down in her bed and will only settle again with the dummy. She has slept through most nights from being about 8 weeks old but the last week or so has started waking once or twice in the night and goes back to sleep again with the dummy, which is grim for us although I do realise how lucky we've been to have the uninterrupted sleep for a few weeks!
Is there anything we can do to wean her off the dummy without making her distressed but also not substituting the dummy for her fingers? Without the dummy she tries to suck her fist/first finger and it is actually a bit red and sore today from me letting her do it more yesterday whereas normally I'm more proactive in stopping her. The only reason I don't like her having it is because of needing to wake up multiple times in the night/her not being able to sleep properly or have long naps in the daytime without someone needing to put the dummy back in, I know that once she's big enough to do it herself it won't be a problem but I'm guessing that won't be for a good few months yet?