11 month old just won't sleep.. HELP

[ty1996]

Hi, my DD has always been quite a bad sleeper. We will do her bedtime routine (bath/bottle/story/sleep) and she goes to sleep no problem by 7:30pm. Within 40 minutes at the most is she is awake and screaming and crying to the point where she is losing her breath and working herself up so much. I then go and put her dummy back in and she settles. This happens again about 40 minutes later.. and is continuous until about 11:30pm and she finally falls asleep. She now wakes in the middle of the night aswell and sits herself up and starts crying again. I check she isn't wet, and offer her a bottle if needed, and make sure she's warm and after about an hour she will go back to sleep. As you can imagine this it taking quite a strain on me and DP as he works all day and when he comes home we can't sit and enjoy each other's company for more than 30 minutes. I need help or advice or anything to help her sleep😫 I'm exhausted and also pregnant again so it's getting to the point now where I'm completely at a loss with what to do with her..

Ah OP my DD is nearly 10 months and it is so up and down. I would personally keep to your routine as it may just be a phase, maybe she has a tooth coming through that is bothering her. You must be knackered, sending my sympathies! How long has this been going on for?

Quite a while now a few months.. I know she's just playing me because when she sleeps at her nannas she is perfect.. goes down at 7 wakes up at 8.. no stirring no nothing. The same at her great nannas. I'm losing the will to live.. she went down at 7 tonight and still hadn't settled. It's getting so bad and I just feel like giving up. DP is sleeping on the sofa tonight because he is so tired and I'm just exhausted but nothing seems to be making her go to sleep. My next stop is driving her around to get her to sleep

It’s reslly normal for babies to still wake at 11 months. Mine also did a sleep cycle various times once in bed before going into a deeper sleep. It’s much better now at 19 months, but it IS normal.

@crazycatlady5 I've seen a few of your posts and you sound like you've been where I am... what was your baby like at this stage and give me hope as to How it changes!

We had 2 sleep throughs this week 11pm-9am, then 9pm-7am, but then last night went to sleep at 7pm, woke at 10pm, then wouldn't go to sleep til 1amand woke again at 4.30am, bavk down again until 7.30. Now today wont nap and it feels a bit poo again. I've guess I just got excited at the sleep throughs. Rehashed a cold so I'm guessing that made her sleep better which is odd as thoughts sleep would be worse.

She is not 'playing you'

She's incapable of playing you.

Have you tried going in before she wakes and gets worked up and giving her a shush and pat as she stirs?

So if she is not 'playing' me.. then how come she is perfectly capable of sleeping through the night whenever she is with someone else but as soon as she is home whenever she wakes up she just screams and as soon as I go see her and lay her back down she's back to sleep

Babies behave differently for different carers but that doesn't mean they're cognitively capable of deciding to maliciously 'play you'

@ty1996 surely you don’t believe your small baby is playing you?

Also it’s entirely possible she isn’t sleeping through with other people - they could just not hear her stirring. But it’s also possible she doesn’t cry because she knows mummy isn’t there. That’s not manipulation. She needs her mama that’s all she knows, she’s not trying to wind you up or ruin your night.