How how how to get a baby to bed/sleep in under an hour???

[Eggoispreggo]

She's 9 weeks old and I completely understand that she's very young, and there's the fourth trimester etc. BUT I'm going slowly mad with the fact that actually getting her to sleep for the night takes an hour minimum, no matter what time I start.
And the process is pretty simple here: change nappy, put in 'pjs' aka white babygro and the lightest tog sleeping bag, feed, walk around/burp her then put her down when she's almost asleep if not fully asleep.
The amount of wake ups, eyes snapping open as I put her down and false wins (she's seemingly sound asleep then 5 mins later on the monitor you hear wailing)
How can I do this in a better way??? Or is this just how the cookie crumbles with newborns?
I'd just like to be at a point where me an DP can maybe watch a programme and have a cup of tea once she's in bed, but by the time I've gotten her to sleep I end up wanting to get to sleep myself 😴
Any advice at all gratefully received even if to tell me this is normal and I should get over it!

Fuck me I should have done a happy dance the nights she went to sleep after an hour. We're still trying tonight 😂 3 hours in!
Thanks again everyone, lots of kind words and good advice.
I would LOVE her to have a dummy to help settle her but I've tried loads and she just gags in a very dramatic fashion. Same with bottles, and she's going to HAVE to get used to bottles some day as I would also like an evening out with DP in months to come and for my Mum to have her for a few hours and be able to feed her.
One thing at a time.
She's just fallen asleep on my chest so I'm not moving a bloody muscle I'll just MN for a while and enjoy the quiet!!!

@Eggoispreggo SIDS guidelines are just guidelines, its up to you how much you want to follow them.

My LO has been sleeping in her own room since 7 weeks, and from 5 weeks we used to put her to bed upstairs and we would be downstairs with the monitor.

We've always put her down and if she cries leave her for a few mins to see if she settles, if not go back in etc. Never taken more than once, and she's been sleeping through since 4 months now.

@Eggoispreggo keeptrying with bottle, if you leave it much longer she may never take to it. My partner gave her her first bottle of EBM at 2 weeks, and we did dummy at 1 week and now she is FF and her dummy settles her instantly

Thanks @Lazypuppy yeah I'm really trying to get her used to the bottle of expressed milk by offering it a couple of times a day, she's very very gradually getting the hang of it.
To be honest I'm kicking myself as at 3 weeks I gave her a bottle and she drank the whole thing no problem. But then all the advice is 'don't confuse them, let them establish breastfeeding for 6 weeks' so I left it, and now I'm up a creek.
If I could go back and tell myself to ignore that advice and give her a bottle once a day or once every couple of days boy would I 😂

Get your partner to give the bottle to start with, thats what i did so she had brwat with me but bottle from her dad. Then i was able to do bottle for her too when needed.

I think the advice is bad, breastfeeding was established for me by 2 weeks so thats when we started. I think the advice should be when breastfeeding is established you should offer a bottle.

I think you're absolutely right, we had it sorted within the first weeks so would have been fine damn it!!
Partner is trying and I've also gotten my friend to try who bottle fed her baby as figured she'd know the tricks!! I think it's just going to take perseverance from us to make it work xx

At 9 weeks old mine was going to sleep ‘for the night’ at around 11pm, when I was going to bed.