When will I sleep again?

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DS is 11 months old, has always been a bad sleeper, and recently was awake every half an hour most nights, much has improved but bugger me hes nearly a year now and still waking

He attends nursery 5 days a week, eats tons.. has one nap a day (about noon) and falls alseep on an 8 oz bottle, But now around 2am he is waking up either wide awake happy play time (descending into screaming if I leave him) or just generally unhappy. We only offer him water at night as per sleep nurse's advice, and this used to be enough.

But now after about an hour and half battle of shushing and consoling we give in and give him a bottle (milk)

doing this makes me worry this is becoming an unhealthy habit; he does then sleep well after the bottle (had to physically wake him for nursery)

but is this hunger? comfort? he has 6 teeth popping through, am i heaven forbid ....

MAKING A ROD FOR MY OWN BACK? (hate that saying)

Sleep nurse says leave him but he gets so worked up and I am just not doing it

So he now wakes at 2am, and then after a bottle will sleep soundly till morning?

I’m sure someone will be along to disagree however I don’t sign up to the ‘babies should need fed at night at this age’ camp. It sounds to me that he is genuinely hungry. I feel it’s totally normal to still need a feed at this age- they are still so little. My friends DS woke for a bottle untill he was about 22 months, and I’ve seen it loads of time on here. If giving him a bottle means it’s the easiest and quickest way of getting him back to sleep then I’d just do that. Less stress and you can get back to sleep quicker. It’s totally normal for babies to wake at night for numerous reasons well into their second year.

I don’t believe in making rods, just doing what you feel is right for your baby.

I promise you will sleep again OP. It’s tough but you will.

Yes last night the same thing, bottle and had to rock him/cuddle a bit and then slept till 6.30.

Thank you; I always fear that i'm not doing the 'right' thing and that ill regret it later but things change a lot month by month dont they, I guess he will change again before i know it

Find it so hard at the moment not to just lose my shit about it, thank you x

Yup I would be delivering a nice fast bottle at him the second he wakes, and honestly if he drinks it and goes back to sleep job done. You can always reassess at, say, 13 months, make the bottle smaller gradually or whatever. I think anything goes until the 1st birthday at least

I think they change so much at this age-you’ve only just noticed a pattern and they change it! So I don’t see how anything you do to cope with these changes can’t later be withdrawn and forgotten. Do what you are comfortable with so that the whole family gets the most sleep. It will get easier, mum DS was APPALLING but once we got over a year things were better and now 2 years in we have more good sleeps than bad. Hang in there, you’re doing a great job.