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after cc, backsliding into sleep problems?

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strangerthanfiction · 20/08/2004 15:02

My dd, 22 months, has been a good sleeper (though an early waker, ) since about 3 months old. At 15 months she was ill and developed a sleep problem which went on for 6 weeks before we resorted to cc which sorted it out in about 3 weeks. Every now and then, like at the moment, she seems to backslide a bit and gets upset when put to sleep, usually at nap times. Dp looks after her when I'm at work 2 days a week and when she's having one of these nap times has resorted to cuddling her to sleep which I think is making the problem escalate and I'm worried we'll end up back where we were at 15 months and I really can't face going through all that again. In other mums experiences, how easily do these occasional sleep refusals turn into a 'problem'? I don't want to be too hard on dd as she's a lovely tempered little girl and generally gives us no bother (except for early mornings!). When I'm looking after her and she's refusing to go to sleep I stick to what we did at the cc time, i.e. go to her, reassure her, don't pick her up and she usually settles within 10-15 minutes, whereas with dp it can take up to 45 minutes. She's definitely tired at nap time, especially when she's up very early, and when she does go off she sleeps for around 2 hours which she clearly needs.

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strangerthanfiction · 20/08/2004 16:25

Anyone?

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strangerthanfiction · 20/08/2004 21:49

Oh, boo. No takers?

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Judd · 20/08/2004 22:13

Hiya,
don't mind having a crack...though may not have any good advice! When does DD wake/nap/go to bed? Does she have dark room etc? Am up for a bit or will check tomorrow - hope you get a good night's sleep anyway.

strangerthanfiction · 20/08/2004 22:19

Hi Judd, she sleeps 7.30-8.00pm - 6.00-6.30am, then around 12pm til 1.30-2ish in the day. Yep, dark room, nothing's changed in particular in routine, she's not unwell etc. etc.

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strangerthanfiction · 21/08/2004 12:44

a little bump

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strangerthanfiction · 21/08/2004 20:38

Last bump

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zaphod · 21/08/2004 21:58

It sounds like you are doing everything right, by using the controlled crying method at nap-times.
It could be that she plays up your dp because she knows he will give in to her. My two year old often cries at nap or bedtime if he is over tired. Might that be the reason your dd gets upset?

strangerthanfiction · 21/08/2004 22:07

Thanks zaphod, yes I think she might be a bit over-tired sometimes. And I also think she plays up dp more than she does me. But I get fed up that he responds in a way that I think is making the problem worse. After his 2 days with her it takes me 2 days to get her back into her usual pattern. Every week. I was wondering though if these sort of glitches can lead to harder to shift problems.

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Judd · 21/08/2004 22:32

oooh sorry! I forgot to check. I agree that she is probably over tired at nap time. My DD used to cry when I took her upstairs for her lunchtime nap, and it just made me more convinced that she actually needed it. I think at 22 months she was having more night time sleep than your DD - 7pm til 8am and then an hour at about 1pm. I think you and DP do need to have a strategy that you both adhere to. Could you try giving her a bit of wind down time after her lunch and before nap, even if its just a nappy change and story in her room so that she's prepared for the nap? However if she is already over tired, extra faffing may not help.
Have you tried putting her to bed earlier in the evenings to see if she sleeps longer? (just a gradual 15 mins earlier every few nights or so until she was in bed at 7pm, although that might not be practical for you). It could be that a longer night time sleep would also help as she wouldn't be over tired at nap time. Also if she is very tired at bed time, going straight into a deep sleep may be why she is waking so early.
I hope this is of some help to you...

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