Co-sleeping

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Co-sleepers/bed-sharers... how and when did your DC's go to their own room? DS is 8.5 months old and has never slept well, so we co-sleep. I'm happy with our current set up and to feel that it's quite natural for babies to want to be with their parents to sleep. I am curious to know how and when you moved them to their own room? Am I making a rod for my own back as people keep telling me?

Mine went in own room at 6 months but only because she started waking hourly and I was losing my mind. I desperately miss her though and wish it had worked. She's more settled in her own room but not perfect and I'm sure she's got lots of separation anxiety and I hate closing the door to her nursery. I love when she nuzzles into me after her bedtime feed and it takes all I have to put her down. I only do it because I know the flip side!

If it's working and you're both happy then just keep going until you're not

18 months and still cosleeping. Going into her own room next month.

DD was 16mo. She went into a single and I slept with her until we transitioned away from that.

DS went onto a double mattress on the floor at 12mo and I fed to sleep and when he woken, then escaped. He's now 19mo, sleeps through and has been on a single bed for the last 2-3 months.

And there definitely is no rod, load of crap.

Ok so a view from someone with slightly older kids may be helpful . . . Mine are now 6.5 years and nearly 4 and co slept as babies & toddlers. With my eldest (DS) I only adopted CO sleeping to get some sleep, never thought I'd do it, & I then tried to push him into his own bed/cot (in own room) from about 6 months but to no avail. I gave up and set up a side car cot bed to make long term no sleeping comfortable at around 9/10 months. I then didn't really try to change things til about 18 months. He wasn't in his own bed properly til he was well over 2 but even then would still come into us. This may freak you out I guess but I should say now that he sleeps very well in his own bed all night & only very occasionally (like 2/3 times a year!) needs a parent in the night when he's unwell. With my youngest (DD), I basically coslept/used side along crib from the start & didn't even ever use a proper cot! She went from our bed to her own bed (bottom bunk in her brother's room) when she was about 2ish, and would still regularly come into our bed at night til sometime last year. Now that's rare & she mainly sleeps 12 hours straight in her own bed. So basically CO sleeping lasted for what felt like a longtime during it but it's now properly over. We did get a much bigger bed when DS was around 1.5yrs which made it all so much better, so my top tip is set up your bed well to make it comfy (either invest in a super king bed or put an extra bed alongside yours).

Thanks all. Great to hear how well your DCs sleep, and that they aren't still in with you at 8 years old as everyone would have me believe! I'm in no rush to move DS, and feel reassured that he will move to his own room when the time is right. Thanks one and all!

Some where around 22 months because I or DH kept waking DD up. When we first moved her I slept with her for the first week or so. Now we still stay with her until she falls asleep and we bought her a 3/4 double so we can easily hop in with her during the night to resettle her. Some time we stay there all night but mostly come back to our own bed. She never wants to come into our bed.

OP I was going to write this post tonight!

Trying to transition DD to the N2Me crib.... not sure when to start, she just cries when she’s on her back, she likes to sleep on her side with her head on my boob...

DD was four before she would sleep on het own.

DS, nearly 3, gas always coo slept, but goes to sleep in his own bed then always comes in to us at some stage.

DD, 6, has always slept on her own.

We battled against co sleeping with DS for ages but now we've embraced it! He just needs us, simple as that. I read Sarah Ockwell Gentle Sleep Book which is v helpful.

That should read Sarah Ockwell Smith