Need help! 10 month old taking forever to go to sleep

[mummyoftwo5]

My DD has always been an absolutely rubbish sleeper but we did have some progress a few months ago, she will now sleep in cot rather than sling/co-sleep. However she is now taking agggeees to go to sleep, at bedtime and naps!

I have recently been moving away from feeding to sleep from naps and bedtime as I go back to work in a few weeks doing shifts so need her to not rely on this. Rocking her used to work but slowly but surely this is now not working, as taking about an hour of her trying to wriggle out of my arms to get her off. If I put her down in the cot she just stands up and cries, even if I try bum patting etc.

Can you guys let me know what might help? I feel sometimes that she may be overtired, how late can last nap be? When do you little ones go to bed?

We go away next weekend but def considering sleep training following this, not CC, but anything else!

Thank you for reading, I'm just so tired with it all 😢

Watching with interest as DD has also recently decided that bedtime = party time and will spend 40 mins or more doing circuits of her cot and refusing to be left alone before finally giving in to sleep.

@dinosaurkisses hello! Glad to know I'm not the only one. I may just keep her in the cot rather than pick her up as she's sooo heavy to rock! Does your DD cry to be picked up or does she just race round the cot? 😂

She stands up and edges around the cot like a caged animal 😂. She’ll happily carry on doing that (in her sleeping bag! how!?) but woe betide DH or I if we try to leave the room.

Sometimes I’ll pick her up and cuddle her (we have an armchair in her room so it’s doable) and she might fall asleep, but only if she feels like it.

It’s almost as if she’s scared of missing out on something!

Update from tonight - over an hour and a half to go to sleep, just cruising around the cot endlessly!. My 5 year old also playing up as I'm spending so long trying to settle the baby and I ended up shouting at her (5 year old that is). All in all a very bad bedtime! One positive is that eventually DD went to sleep without me patting, rocking or feeding her. How has your bedtime been?

What's your partner doing?

I can't settle DS very well without boob- I do so long and then DH is tagged in and usually DS is asleep within minutes.

There is also a sleep regression 8-10 mo as they try to figure out movement, babble more etc and it sounds like this might be related

He was in with our 5 year old but she was waiting for me to come and read her a story! He tries to settle the baby but she never settles for him atm.

Yes sleep regression could be, we have never really had clear regressions as her sleep has not left much to regress from haha! But def could be related to learning to walk as she will not stop moving!!

He was in with our 5 year old but she was waiting for me to come and read her a story! He tries to settle the baby but she just cries at him! It would be good if he could learn a way to get her to sleep, though I feel this will only happen when I am out of sight and hearing!

Yes sleep regression could be, we have never really had clear regressions as her sleep has not left much to regress from haha! But def could be related to learning to walk as she will not stop moving!!

We had a fairly straightforward time this evening for once- DD lay in her cot for DH who was then able to escape the room, but kicked off after ten minutes of being on her own.

I went up and picked her up for a cuddle and she lay in my arms laughing and singing until she fell asleep with exhaustion after 10 mins.

She was up with my parents last night and she won’t nap for them during the day so I think she was just wrecked, hence the non-tortuous bedtime routine tonight.