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Advice on when to put baby in his own room

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BabyE · 10/08/2018 13:48

My baby is 3 and a half months old and he currently sleep in a next to me cot. He has started to roll and I wake up to find his face squashed against the side of his cot. I was just wondering when people moved their babies into their cots in their own room. My health visitor advised me to either move the cot into our bedroom, which we aren't keen on or to wait until he was 6 months-1 year! What have other people done? Looking for some advice please.

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overmydeadbody · 10/08/2018 13:58

Advice is not too let them sleep alone until over six months. Lots of evidence to back this up.

So my advice is wait till six months. Move them into a cot in your room, but don't move them out of your room.

userabcname · 10/08/2018 14:04

Official guidelines say 6 months. My son is 14mo and still in our room. I know others who have put babies in their own rooms from 6 weeks. It's up to you to decide but do read up on the risks associated with putting a baby under 6mo in their own room.

Takfujimoto · 10/08/2018 14:09

DC1 I slept in the nursery for 9 months.
DC2 bassinet in our room for 8 months.
DC3 is 2yrs old and still in with us.

I would always wait until 6 months to start moving them into their own space.

Smurf123 · 10/08/2018 15:15

We have moved my son into a travel cot (I did but a proper mattress for it though please. ) that way we can keep him in our room but didn't need to move his cot

Newmum26 · 10/08/2018 22:10

DS is 15 months and is still in with us. He suffers when he is teething real bad and wakes frequently during the night when a new tooth is coming so for us it's easier to have him in with us for now. We have no plans to move him out any time soon as he's in his own cot across the other side of our room. There's no right or wrong just do what feels right for you ☺️

Wishicouldsleep · 10/08/2018 22:27

Mine both went into their own rooms from 3 weeks old.
I'm a night sleeper I kept waking up thinking their sleepy grunts were them waking up asking for a feed.
I think it depends on your house layout. If you can hear them easily, leave doors open and use a baby monitor... Obviously NHS recommend not until 6 months. But just go with what works in your family.

Wishicouldsleep · 10/08/2018 22:28

light sleeper! Not night

Redteapot67 · 10/08/2018 22:32

We had a cot in our room
She stayed there until she was 18 months - but she did have a few health issues which made me want her close at night
The right thing is whatever you feel comfortable with - the range of normal is 6 weeks to 3/4 years.
If you do move I’d recommend a good breathing sensor and video monitor though - they can get sick and get stuck in it or twisted in their covers/sleeping bags and arms in bars etc.

DerfelCadarn · 10/08/2018 22:33

We moved DD into her own room at 5 months because we were disturbing her when we came to bed. She was a big baby and didn't have any night feeds by this point (slept 11+ hours unless poorly), so we didn't have any worries about her.

Pebblespony · 10/08/2018 22:35

The day she turned six months we moved her out of our room. Moved her into her own cot about 2 months. She loved the space.

dementedpixie · 10/08/2018 22:37

We had the cot in our room when they grew out of the crib and they stayed there until 8 months old

TheMildManneredMilitant · 10/08/2018 22:43

6 months for both of ours. It's your choice ultimately and I know not everyone has the space, but the evidence suggests this reduces risk of SIDS - and as I think no one knows why this is then can't be sure that any additional safeguards such as monitors etc would help replicate whatever it is about sleeping in same room that reduces that risk.

Fatted · 10/08/2018 22:44

DS1 went into his own room at 11 weeks. We had the same predicament, outgrew the moses basket and no room for the cot bed in our room.

DS2 stayed in with us until he was about 10 months old I think. We didn't want to move him in with his brother while he still woke up really early. We also bought a crib in anticipation of the same problem so actually had room this time for him in our room.

Bobbiepin · 10/08/2018 22:45

5ish months. She was a light sleeper and no matter how quiet I was I would wake her getting into bed. She hated the crib and adores her cot. We didn't have the room to bring the cot into our room so made do with the video monitor. She is right next door though (although I don't believe it would have made a difference, it was the right time for us).

Faster · 10/08/2018 22:48

Well minimum recommendation for SIDS guidelines in 6mo. That said DS is still
in with me, 50:50 cot or in bed with me, he’s 13mo. He sleeps a good 8-10hrs straight and I think that if it’s not broke then don’t fix it.

MrsMoastyToasty · 10/08/2018 22:53

We moved ds into his own room at 7 weeks. It coincided with DH starting a new job involving shift work. They were adjoining rooms and we kept both doors open with DCats confined to the kitchen.

Snoopychildminder · 10/08/2018 22:55

Our daughter stayed in with us until she was 10months ish. I couldn’t have had her in another room any earlier to be honest

TheExhausted · 10/08/2018 23:02

DS is 18 months and still in with us. I plan to move him into his room at around 2. Partly because his room is a shit tip and I need to get around to redecorating before moving him, partly because he still wakes alot in the night so it's just easier. I wouldn't move them before 6 months.

Goostacean · 10/08/2018 23:03

Went into his own room out of necessity at 3.5 months (visited someone whose house didn’t have space for the cot in our room), and it was so successful that we continued when we got home! Everyone got more sleep, and we didn’t disturb him going to bed/getting up. I’m very aware it’s against the guidelines, but worked for us 👍🏻

FlotSHAMnJetson · 10/08/2018 23:06

One moved at 4 months as they outgrew Moses basket and no space for anything else. The other was 10 months.

mastertomsmum · 10/08/2018 23:25

Our DS was in our room until over a year old. He is 12 now and the usual time for moving a child to the nursery/their own room was then about 3 months or when they outgrew the Moses basket. I only mention this because guidelines change. It wasn’t a hassle to have a cot in our bedroom but at the time the only other parents we knew who had a child over 3/4 months on the same room were those doing co sleeping.

It sort of sounds from this thread that guidelines on night feeding have changed. 12 weeks was the goal for sleeping through the night when DS was a baby. I knew only a few people who admitted this hadn’t been achieved. Those of us with premmies found it easier to tell it like it was

babysharkdoodoodoodoodoodoo · 10/08/2018 23:32

I definitely wouldn't younger than 6 months but it's up to you whenever you feel comfortable, my 2.5 yr old still co sleeps with me as it works for us and I feel it's natural for mother and child to sleep next to each other, I've said he can have his own bed in his own room when he asks for one x

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