Please tell me I am not alone

[PrincessDaff]

Hi everyone

I have a 14 month old DS who is a horrendous sleeper, always had been. He went through a phase at 12 months of sleeping through for a week but then he got more teeth and he is back to waking up 4-5 times a night!! People keep asking me how he is sleeping and when I say he still doesn't sleep well they pull a face and go really mine was sleeping through at 6 weeks or something stupid like that. I was even at a baby shower last week and a woman who I had never met actually asked me if there was something wrong with him because he doesn't sleep through!

Surely I cant be the only person out there with a baby who isn't a good sleeper.

Nope, you are not the only person. My DS is 16mo and has been a terrible sleeper forever. I bored myself so much obsessing about it (and arguing with DH about what we should do about it...) during his first year that now I just accept it and barely talk about it.

I had to leave a baby group once because all the babies were sleeping through and one woman was complaining that her DS only slept '8 hours last night, instead of the usual 12'. I just couldn't take it.

A non-sleeping baby is a very very tough thing to cope with. I can't give you any advice but you have my sympathy.

No you're not, but no point comparing tbh

'he doesn't but I'm told it's a sign of intelligence' is a good comeback

(my mum used to wish my sister and i were less intelligent/ slept more )

Thank you for the replies.

You are right mister it does get so boring. I am sick of people asking me its all they ask. I flipped a bit on a family member recently for asking again. I wish people would stop obsessing over his sleep and looking at me with the sympathetic head tilt when I say no still not sleeping unless they want to volunteer to have him overnight and give me a break haha.

Yeah I wish I could have a night off but we're a way off night weaning yet.

We're down to 3 wakes at the moment (only 2 feeds) and i'm not always having to bedshare to get him to sleep to 7am so winning?

Definitely winning! We have stopped bringing ds into our bed because he beats me black and blue with how much he moved I am constantly being kicked and hit while he is rolling about the bed so when he wakes up he stays in his cot. This did not go down well at first but I think he is starting to realise he wont be coming in our bed!

Ah he's not too bad but it's as much my laziness/ knackeredness TBH.

And sometimes we get 8am wakeup that way!

I have a 14mo DS who has only slept through twice in his life. He co-sleeps with me so wake-ups are brief and minimal disruption to the household. I just lie and tell people he does sleep through! And to the super judgey ones I lie and say he's in a cot in his own room - ha!

Mine never has at 13.5 mo.

We had a 6 hour spell friday night. Best he's ever done and I couldn't bloody sleep through it