Where should newborn sleep before we go to bed?

[Pix18]

Hi, my son is 2 and a half weeks old and sleeps in a next 2 me crib in our room on a night time. During the day he naps in his Moses basket in the living room. We have been trying to establish a loose routine in that we get him ready for bed at 7pm and close the curtains in the living room and put him down in his Moses basket until we go up to bed but my partner thinks we should be putting him upstairs in his own bedroom, in the cot he will sleep in after 6 months. Then we can move him into our room when we go up to bed.
I’m not sure what the guidance is for this though? Is he too young? And are they not supposed to sleep in the same room as you at this age?
Thank you for any advice!

We just kept ours in the living room with us. She tended to want a feed when we were going to bed so we moved her then.

No he’s far too young to be sleeping upstairs alone
In a Moses basket in the living room with you until you go up, then transfer him to bed
Babies should sleep in the same room as you (day or night) until 6 months to reduce the risk of SIDS

Official SIDS advice is what baby should be in the same room as someone for all sleeps untill at least 6 months. As with all aspects of parenting it’s about doing your research, making your own risk assessment and doing what works for your baby and family. However, at only 2 weeks old personally I would rather baby be close to me at all times when sleeping. When DS was that age he slept in a Moses basket in the living room (it he’d go in at all) but most of the tim he dozed and BF on and off untill he properly went to bed at about 10, and then we’d go up. Personally I would be comfortable with such a tiny baby being upstairs alone

The same advice as PPs.

Sorry.. should say I wouldn’t be comfortable

They are supposed to sleep in the same room as you until 6 months including naps. I didn't realise this and used to put them up to bed in our room after 7pm feed from around 8 weeks as they got into a little routine.
It did work well but the official advice is to keep them downstairs with you and move upstairs when you go

It depends on what you’re doing of an evening really.
Guidelines say baby should be sleeping in the same room as someone else, this is for naps and bigger sleeps. This helps prevent
SIDS. I think your suggestion of popping him in the basket sounds spot on!
I found with my DS that when we did the same, we would still put the telly on and he wasn’t bothered by the noise and I could attend to him easily if needed. If I fancied an early night (which I regularly did!) then I took him upstairs with me when I went up.
Don’t worry about routine, trying to find or establish one just yet. Your DD hasn’t really realised he’s been born just yet, keep him close, snuggle, feed, skin to skin, just be with each other x

Thank you everyone! I felt like I was being insane, the thought of leaving him upstairs made me want to cry so I’m glad I’ve had the replies that I have. Will definitely be keeping him close by while he sleeps until he’s older x

Pix just remember that your DS is learning how to be while you are learning how to Mum. Trust your instincts. They’ll see you right.
Everyone is winging it at parenting.

Plus when they fall asleep on your chest and they just fit into your body is one of the best feelings in the world.

Oh, this makes me wonder something myself then.

My DS is also three weeks old and he sleeps downstairs in a Moses basket with us and then we take him up to our room when we go to bed.

When can you actually start establishing a bed time routine with them if you are suppose to be with them until six months?

I was thinking about starting a bottle, bath, book, bed (in our room) routine with DS as early as possible to get him used to it but don't want to leave him upstairs on his own from say 8pm until we go up to bed between 10-11 if you're not suppose to until their six months?

Will it effect establishing a routine if at five months old say, he is still downstairs with us until 10-11?

Also when we go up to bed he is sleeping in his Moses basket upstairs as well as downstairs but was going to move him into his cot tonight (still in our room) is he too small for this?

Sorry for hijacking your thread OP but your thread has made me wonder now

Hijack away Notastamping! I would be interested to know too!

I can only speak from my own experience. That’s to say it’s neither wrong nor right but what worked for us.
DS worked out his own routine. When he was small he stayed with us downstairs, I took him upstairs about 8/9pm. From about 5/6 months our routine became bottle, cuddles and bed. He is 13mo old and the routine is the same, but with tooth brushing added in! I don’t do a nightly bath as I don’t think babies need them, but that’s my own option.

notstanping I would say definitely too small for the big cot, Moses baskets are fine until they physically outgrow them, is there a particular reason you were thinking of swapping him over so young?

Personally I’m of the opinion that trying to establish a routine before a year old is pointless as something always comes up to fuck it up - teething, separation anxiety, they always go through a funny month or so when they start weaning, and crawling, teething, a bit more teething!
Certainly before 6 months I would say go with the flow, you’ll find the majority of babies find their own routine, it may not be the conventional ‘bath, bottle, bed for 7pm’ but that really doesn’t matter at this age and for some babies you’ll go insane trying to implement it

Both of ours stayed in the living room with until they were using the cot. So first went before us from 3 months, second from 4.5 months. They hadn't outgrown their moses basket, they just weren't sleeping well in them anymore.

@FuckyDuzz Thanks for your reply!

DS will be four weeks old on Thursday. He wasn't a big baby by any means. (6lb 14) but he's got very long limbs!

I anticipated him being in his Moses basket for several months but already he just seems a bit long for it.

He likes stretching out and doesn't seem to have that much room for his arms or legs in the basket.

Although, we could probably get away with the basket for another few weeks maybe.

Which is good I suppose because I don't feel ready to put him in his big cot yet!

DP goes back to work in a weeks time after his paternity leave and in my head all I can think is routine, routine, routine.

Routine is the only thing I can think of to try and make it work.

I'm bad with chaos. Unorganised chaos is my worst nightmare!!

I keep telling myself that I'll need to have a routine and plan everything from the time we get up in the morning, to when I shower and cook dinner, etc.

At the moment we have been taking each day as it comes and thats something I struggle with.

Downstairs at this age. I used to go to bed early and DD would stay downstairs with DH until late. Meant I got a few hours uninterrupted