I need help and advice!

[suarez1988]

Hi, we have a three month old girl and a two and a half year old boy. Our son has always been an amazing sleeper and seemed to be ready to go into a toddler bed. We got his bed a week and a half ago andar first he loved it, couldn't wait to go to bed. Fast forward to this week he's been screaming like a banshee to not go to his bed and to sleep in our bed. The night before last we had to stay next to him to fall asleep but when we got up in the morning he was asleep on the floor by his open door. Last night we tried the supernanny stay in bed technique and it took 40 mins for him to go to bed, but when my dh got up at 4:30 this morning, he was again lying asleep on the floor by his open door. We went to put him back in his bed and he cried and wanted to come into our bed, so we let him. I don't know what to do as our 3 month old is in our bedroom with us, if we do the stay in bed technique at 4am it could potentially wake her up as he screams, but I think we are going a step backwards by letting him into our bed. Any help would be great! I'm not sure if the hot weather is also bothering him! Thank you!

I don’t have any advice really as I’ve not experienced this but would be interested to see what others have to say about it! I would be inclined to say that now the novelty has worn off, reality has set in that he’s in there on his own while the rest of you are all together and this is something he’ll get used to in time. Also, the fact you say he stays in his room but asleep by the door suggests, as you say, possibly that’s he’s struggling with the heat in bed. What bed sheets are you using? - duvet or just a sheet? Are they 100% cotton? What is the temperature of his room like?

Hello! Thanks for replying! His room has been extremely hot, up to 29 degrees so we haven't covered him but left a sheet to hand as he likes to cover himself sometimes. Tonight it's 23, so we have left a duvet on at the bottom of his bed. We use 100% cotton ones! Last night he did the same and we found him on the floor at 4:30am, we have found bedtime better the last two nights in relation to putting him down as he has gone without a nap and is just pooped by the time it's bedtime. Do you think we should put him back in his bed even if he's asking to come into our bed? Also if he kicks off should we do the stay in bed technique? Thank you!

I think you’re right in not bringing him into your bed but you’ve got to do what’s best for you and your family’s sleep. In terms of the Stay in Bed Technique, I think that’s something you’ll need to decide yourself as well really, around what you think is best. If you feel that at the moment it’s too disruptive, wait a week or two and see if the problem resolves itself. It’s all down to parenting styles I think! Some people will say to sleep train and others will say to allow them to come into your bed. Ultimately it’s down to you! If it were me, I think I’d keep him out of our bed and wait for a week or two to see if he stops spending the night by the door! It can’t be comfy at the end of the day?!

It sounds like you’re doing all the right things regarding providing him with appropriate bedding so maybe it isn’t that.