I'm sinking

[zombie999]

I am slowly sinking and I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel!

My baby just doesn't sleep! She's 7 months wakes 3-4 times a night and has 2 naps a day both lasting an hour tops!

Dad works away and comes home at weekend. When he comes home it's like pulling teeth trying to get him to do the night feeds and get up with her.

I am 8 weeks pregnant with our second and I'm exhausted.

I'm currently sat on the sofa in tears. I just want a break!

Maybe I'm just being a miserable cow but I'm so fed up. My body is running on empty!

This weekend I refuse to do any night feeds or early get ups, he can do them!

Why won't she just sleep?!?!? I'm at boiling point!

Sorry. Hugs and .

I don't have any advice, but I hope it passes soon. I'm afraid that sleep pattern doesn't sound too far off average to me. She may sleep better at night when the weather cools down a bit.

Do you have family that can come and give you a break? My mum used to take DD out in pra,m for one of her naps so I could get some rest. I didn't usually sleep, but just being alone and having some "me time" was so valuable to me.

Hello, sorry you're in the middle of difficult nights and the early pregnancy weeks of exhaustion- a really tough combination. Congratulations though!

First things first- it's not a case of your baby "won't" sleep, she can't... at least not yet. This sleeping pattern is crap but it's totally normal. You're in an especially hard situation though effectively being a single pregnant parent during the week. I'd say given that however, you don't have the desire of trying to get couple-time in the weekday evenings, so just go to bed as early as you possibly can.
Put off any chores two nights a week and go to bed super super early, then catch up on a 'normal' night. (normally I'd say partner should step up and allow you to sleep, or share the nights).

And, no beating about the bush- your partner absolutely must step up and help you out when he does come back at weekends. He wants time off I'm sure, but so do you, and why should it always be him? This is parenting and he needs to give you a break. I say this by the way as someone who is the working parent. My evenings and weekends off from my job are totally spend looking after my children while my husband has a break or catches up on chores he can't do with kids there. It's tough, but that's family life.
You need support and early pregnancy is not the time to lack that. Not to forget the fact that soon there will be two children and he'll need to do a lot more all the time when he's home then too!

Good luck x