Totally lost my shit with 2yo tonight :(

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Tonight dh worked late
Put ds to bed at 7pm (he's 2 and a half). Then spent the next hour trying to give my screaming 12 week old his last feed as he was exhausted and hungry. All while 2yo ds came out of his room every 2 mins laughing.
I ended up so frustrated I dragged him into his room by his arms and properly shouted so loud. I was just fed up. Normally one feeds the baby while the other deals with the toddler so it's not an issue
I feel bloody awful. Just went in to kiss him goodnight and cried as he looked so young and innocent and I realised how awful I've been :(
Told dh who has basically made me feel 100 x worse
Please tell me I'm not the only one to lose my shit. And if anyone has advice on how to stop him coming out every 2 mins for an hour most nights I'd be grateful!

Please tell me I'm not the only one to lose my shit.

Oh god no. We all do. They'll survive. They know who loves and cares for them.

Having two little ones is psychological torture at times (or at least my two are). Go easy on yourself, have some wine, start again tomorrow. Your reaction is entirely normal and human.

Can you put him to bed differe tly whilat coping with a newborn. I have a 2.5 yr old and newborn. I get us all in my bed hen carry 2.5 year old into cot once fast asleep. Or could u try not leaving 2.5 yr old until he is fast asleep and feeding baby whilst in that room as surely that can take place anywhere? Was there a reason u left him? It sounds like u made it hard for yourself. We have all found things tough though. Find an easier way and dont wprry if its against the grain you have a lot on

Normal, so don’t worry. It’s strange to get to nice, ordered adulthood and then suddenly boom! You are surrounded by the most unreasonable, unsocialised (they’re just learning), unempathetic (again just learning) beings. When they’ve yanked your chain all day, then taken a bobby pin to your favourite piece of furniture and finished up by giving you a nosebleed through sheer lack of thinking, it’s hard not to want to yell and cry. I hear you sister.

But tomorrow is another day and will hopefully go better for you.

Oh and I keep my 2.5yr old in her cot still for this reason. The 3 yr old is bad enough.

It’s a struggle. You’re not alone.
Does your ds have a routine ? Bath, bed time story ,milk ? Maybe he’s just not tired at that time ? Move his bed time a little later and try to get him tired out.

Just remembered when my eldest was almost 2 and I was busy with the new baby I’d give him the iPad for the time I needed to feed. It was a Godsend as I did bedtime alone a lot.

I've got a gate across my 3 year old room! No escaping!

Thanks for responding everyone. And it's nice to know I'm not alone. Ds has come in this morning and we've had lovely snuggles and I said sorry.
Yeah ds does have a good bedtime of Bath book and bed. He's usually in bed for 7 - used to be 7.30 - but he dropped his nap when Ds2 was born and also now wakes at 6am rather than 7am like he used to so hes having a lot less sleep now, which is why we moved his bedtime earlier. Some nights he'll be out like a light and others takes an hour of him pratting about. We can never judge what kind of a night it'll be as he always seems exhausted at bedtime!
And I can't really change baby's bedtime because he has a bottle at 4.30 and then naps till about 5.15. Then by 7 /7.30 he is hungry and shattered too. (In a great routine and sleeps all night so far thank god)
Can anyone see where these routines could be changed to make things easier?
Thanks again

Also he's been out of his cot since September last year as he was climbing out . This only started when ds2 came along as he must have felt he was missing out.
And i have thought about a stair gate but I worry that when he sleeps over at nanny's house etc we'll always have a problem if it's a novelty he doesn't have a gate on.

Give baby bottle in your sons room while putting your son to bed. X

Ask nanny to get a stair gate for the door as well. It works for us