I have 12 week old twin boys. One sleeps well, the other is a bit trickier. He's the same one that takes the best part of an hour to feed and wind as he is a slow eater and very windy.
We do bath, bottle and bed for 7pm. Most days they both go down and stay down til their next feed at 10pm.
We were doing a nightfeed around 2am, when they woke us. Then they would wake us off and on being unsettled between 3:30 and their next feed at 6am.
However this week I realised that we were probably feeding them out of habit and because they woke us rather than because they were hungry. I also felt the nightfeed was contributing to how unsettled they were between 3am and 6am (wind because they were too sleepy to wind properly at 2am) so we decided to start dropping the night feed.
We had a very gradual plan to stretch them from 2:30am to 6am. However on night one they woke up once with teething pain, I gave them anbesol, cuddled them and they slept in my arms til 5am. I couldn't put them down as I can't get up with two without waking both. We brought the 6am feed forwards and just ran a bit early most of the day.
So our plan tonight was not to feed them before 5am but if they were both unsettled I would get my husband up to deal with one so we could put them down in their cots and I didn't get stuck under both. Normally we do different time periods to each other rather than dealing with one baby each.
So we did that but my littlest twin is refusing to be put down. He slept after his 10pm feed in his cot til 1:45. I resettled him and put him down at 2am. He woke at 2:30. Woke his brother who DH resettled, but then tantrummed about being put down. He's not hungry.
We decided to tackle one thing at a time, so focus on eliminating the night feed, establishing the habit of going from 10pm to 6am and then we'll think about getting the little twin to stay down more easily. So now I'm cuddling him to sleep downstairs.
I think it's sensible. If we let him be awake off and on moaning all night he'll be hungry well before 5am, but it does feel a bit frustrating to be up just as much as if I'd been feeding them.
Does this sound sensible? Any words of wisdom?
Ps I can now hear the other twin waking up and DH dealing with him. Fingers crossed it's just his teeth and he'll go down again.