Safe co sleeping

[Northernbeachbum]

Ive ended up cosleeping with 6 week old ds for the second half of the night as after his second feed he takes a while to wind down to sleep but will happily just lay next to me but not in his cot. Am i missing anything to make it as safe as possible...

• DS next to me, me curled around
• no pillows or duvet any where nearby
• i have one arm above his head so he cant wriggle up
• one hand on his chest with fingers under his arm so he can't suddenly learn to roll or slip down the bed
• never have alcohol
• no one smokes
• only the second half of the night when im less tired and feel very much like im dozing not deep sleeping
• if im too tired he goes to dp who Will get him back in his cot when he gets to sleeps

Does this sound ok?

I think so, it what I have found works best the first half of the night.

Read this www.isisonline.org.uk

And this

breastfeedingmadesimple.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/sharingbedleaflet.pdf

Sounds good to me. I coslept with both of mine, although I hadn’t intended to initially! Also worth noting that all the data is from case-control studies with relatively small numbers. The really big ones are smoking and alcohol which you have already thought about. I was really worried about them suddenly learning to roll so I bought some of those sides that you get for when they go in a single bed. This put my mind at rest...
It’s so hard when they’re little to get it right and you worry about everything! Hope you manage to get some sleep

Sounds absolutely fine to me. I spent a lot of time co sleeping when DS was a newborn. It’s mainly just about using a common sense approach. I was so nervous in the beginning, but the worry passes quickly when you get comfortable and it works so well for you

I have coslept with two babies since birth. What you describe sounds fine. You could consider a bed guard for when they start to roll, or pushing the bed against the wall. I used a wool quilt for myself on my legs when they were older - very thin and breathable. I also always used to sleep with them in the crook of my arm do they couldn't roll all over the place so easily when they were a bit older.

Yes my 9 week old is very big and I'm finding the crook of my arm is useful at times to keep him a little elevated.

You could try a sleepy head but mine seems to be preferring just next to me. The cosleeping crib appears to be where I put my phone.

once again I've spent a fortune on sleeping vessels and they've all be rejected

A Baby Dan bedguard was really useful when he was a little older and mobile. They tend to hang off it when a toddler, be warned.

Longer term, when he was older, (around 20 mo and wanting his own room) I put a mattress on the floor in his bedroom and went in with him. I only wish it had been a double or a queen sized though.

He has a sleepyhead and deems that ok sometimes (anywhere else really isnt acceptable to his tiny lordship ) but that second feed he stays awake a while but if hes happy and safe its nice to fall asleep next to him.....usually before he sleeps

Glad we're doing it right, thank you all for answering. This parenting malarky is a massive minefield