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Karen1687 · 16/06/2018 14:11

My daughter is 2 years and 1 month and recently it’s like someone has swapped her overnight and given me a lookalike except her behaviour. She has been going to bed no bother by herself for 9 months now (she had separation anxiety for a while) and now all of a sudden hates bed time AND nap time. She will think up every possible excuse to get out of bed. Sore knee, sore tummy, need poo poo, want cream on legs. She also asks to go in our bed, which we say no to, in the nicest way. Once she realises we aren’t budging the temper kicks in and she screams and cries and throws her dummy across the room. It’s horrible. She also makes a huge deal out of nothing while playing in the house with her toys and throws them or folds her arms and shouts no? This has been going on for a week now. Today I cracked and shouted at her. So much so it gave her a fright and she cried. I instantly felt so bad and cried aswell. Which then made her even worse and said “be happy mummy” 😪 Please any advice is welcome or even to tell me it’s not uncommon or not to worry. I’m a stressed mummy just now and need some words of comfort x

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InFrance2014 · 16/06/2018 15:59

Hi I think this is very normal. I would try not to see what she's doing as being difficult, or trying to 'get to you'. She's very very little and is going through a lot of development. There is some aspect of testing boundaries and effects of her actions, but that's not something to punish, only guide through.
It can be very very challenging, and my best advice would be to take a look at the writing and advice of Sarah Ockwell Smith: it's all about explaining things from the toddler's perspective, empowering you to deal with it compassionately but still with authority.

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