Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Sleep

Join our Sleep forum for tips on creating a sleep routine for your baby or toddler. Need more advice on your childs development? Sign up to our Ages and Stages newsletter here.

Do you ever stop feeling tired being a mum?!!!

14 replies

yogamama · 22/05/2007 14:28

Hello all,

Sorry for mini-rant but do you ever stop that feeling 'tired-all-the-time'? aka TAT amongst my friends!

I have DD 2.9 and DS 7mths and I'm about to return to work. I'm trying to enjoy my time with my children but I'm just so tired, it's making me miserable. And then I think, 'stop moaning' I'm lucky to have such lovely kids. But with work looming, I'm wondering how I'll cope on such little sleep and holding down a job and running the home etc.

Granted, I sometimes go to bed late, as I want to have some time with DH and not be hitting the hay at 8.30pm every night. The older one is a rubbish sleeper and have been to sleep clinic on a number of occasions with no avail - so have settled that, that's just the way she is.

The baby is still settling into a routine, so have broken sleep here and there, but the combination of them both being up most nights is a killer for all involved ( DH is v.helpful at night and still has to go off and do a days work).

I do exercise and eat well (apart from Green & Blacks addiction) I'm 31 feeling 51.
Does it get any easier when children get older, or is it just a different kind of tiredness that's not associated with babies and toddlers? Is this just a mother's lot - being constantly shattered and you just get used to it as the years go by?

I would like another child at some stage, but to be honest the constant broken nights is putting me right off!!!

Rant over, it's a lovely and I should be outdoors enjoying the sunshine! :-)

OP posts:
LoveMyGirls · 22/05/2007 14:35

When my first dd got to 4-5 I found I had bags more energy then i started working FT and got pg and felt shattered and have done ever since now dd2 is 20mths and i'm a childminder looking after lots of children, I wonder if I'm so shattered because I've got more than 1 child or if it's because of dd2's age and once she hits 4 I'll feel less shattered or if now because of my job i'll be shattered forever.

i'm hoping by the time dd2 hits 4, dd1 will be 10 and even if i'm still childminding I will be less tired because I will have more sleep (still have broken nights when dd2 has a cold or teething) and because I won't have to do so much for my own children and will get more chill time at weekends.

yogamama · 22/05/2007 15:03

Gosh, LoveMyGirls - you have got your work cut out - no wonder you're tired.

I'll stop whingeing now, as you are looking after your children and other people's all day long. I'm exhausted just looking after my own let alone any one else's!

I love my childminder so have the upmost respect for you and all people whose work involved caring for children!! So here, here to you!

OP posts:
MaureenMLove · 22/05/2007 15:13

Not the right time to tell you all that my dd is 11 and I'm STILL knackered then!
Seriously though, it is so exhausting when they are little and it seems you will never, ever get a good nights sleep again, but you will. I know its hard, but I promise, it will get easier.
I'm a childminder too, so that probably why I'm exhausted by the end of the day! That and the fact I'm getting old!

lucyellensmum · 22/05/2007 15:23

oh, so its not just me then - yawn

cruisemum1 · 22/05/2007 18:22

ii'm constantly knackered. have to really force myself to make the best of every day sometimes. Get resentful and cross that i have to go on feeling like this but as i have a dd age 9 and a ds age 8mths i can testify that it does get better the older they get!

Cloudhopper · 22/05/2007 20:16

I remember when my first dd got to about 2.6yo, suddenly things got a lot easier and I started to have a life again.

Now dd2 is 15 months, so I figure that life will return at some stage.....

You have two children even closer together than mine, and one is still very young. It will get easier, and one day they will sleep! It is the only thought that keeps me going days like today where I spent half the night up with a teething baby.

jajas · 22/05/2007 20:19

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

wrinklytum · 22/05/2007 20:25

So far,NO !

Sorry.

Have 3.5 and 1.5 year old.

Am 35 but feel about 85 most days.

yogamama · 22/05/2007 20:32

Ahh well, at least I'm not alone!

OP posts:
cruisemum1 · 23/05/2007 10:58

shattered again today

GameGirly · 23/05/2007 11:03

I have to depress you all, but my "LOs" are now 12 and 9 YEARS OLD and I'm still knackered! Whilst they don't wake me up in the night so much anymore, I lie awake and worry about them: will they pass exams, are they happy at school, will they get pregnant, take drugs, get raped ...??!!

GameGirly · 23/05/2007 11:05

Sorry. That was really unecessary. I shouldn't have posted that depressing and selfish comment. Please enjoy your little ones - you will get more sleep soon, I promise. (And if you don't, you will at least get used to being constantly exhausted!)

cruisemum1 · 23/05/2007 11:42

gamecurly - my dd is 9yo so i understand your worries! she is going through a pre=pubescent stage and i worry that i am losing my 'little' girl already

cruisemum1 · 23/05/2007 11:42

sorry -'girly'

New posts on this thread. Refresh page