Can't cope with the idea of CC

[gillhowe]

Hi, so I'm sort of just looking for reassurance really!

DS is 6.5months, he's always been a terrible sleeper largely, but not only, due to a bit of reflux (which seems much better now). He's still up 4 - 5 times a night. I mainly just go to him when he crys and provide what he needs (food, cuddles etc). When I'm absolutely exhausted (maybe once a week or so) I'll banish DH to the spare room for a night and we'll co-sleep so I can catch up on some zzz's.

The baby has started crying for me and then laughing as soon as I come into his room. This isn't everytime he cries though, maybe only once or twice a week.

Everyone seems to suggest that I have to do CC (or one of these other methods that just sounds like CC in disguise to me). I've a couple of problems with this firstly I thought that crying would aggravate his reflux and secondly I don't want to do it!

Can someone just tell me that this isn't a huge big deal and the world wont end if I just keep going on as I am and eventually he'll grow out of it !

Thanks

I have co-slept with all 4 of mine and really enjoyed it.My dh sleeps elsewhere and it works for us but it's not for everyone i know.

I hate the thought of cc so i am not someone who should even give you advice really.

Have you thought about co-sleeping and put an end to the getting up 5/6 times a night?

Just a suggestion

...this isnt a huge big deal nad the world wont end if you just keep going on as you are...

really, dont do it if you dont want to . i never could. have survived (just) wot we did --got a very very big bed all sleep together a lot. not every night, all starts off civilised.
elisabeth pantley 'no-cry sleep solution' is good book. read it and looked at the pictures. sure it might help if we did it...

Thanks guys!

I'd love to co-sleep all the time, we were doing it a lot more until a month or so ago. It wasn't really working for us as a long term solution though, DH wants his bed back!

I did CC with DS1, but I do think 6.5m is a bit young. I also have the reflux issue with DS2, and at the moment, if we leave him to cry for more than a minute or so (if I'm tied up with something else when he wants me), he will normally end up being sick, so I'm not sure how CC would work with him.

Could you co-sleep with your DS and DH?

Try your dh going into him in the night instead. He might not be so inclined to giggle with glee when he gets dad-with-a-sore-head instead of cuddly mum.

This worked with us, ds still got comfort and care when he cried in the night but dad just wasn't really what he wanted and he soon gave up waking. With ds it was pure habit I think.

The bed wasn't big enough for all three of us (two six footers and a baby that likes to spread out!). I was thinking about investigating co-sleepers.

DH doesn't like losing sleep and at the moment refuses to go to the baby after midnight, some lame excuse about having to go to work :0

well, perhaps suggest to your DH that he has the right to 'refuse' to go in to his own child after midnight, on the days that you have the right to laze about in bed all morning to recover from being up in the night.

Unless he's an airline pilot or brain surgeon I don't suppose being a little sleep deprived will matter.

Your sleep is no less important than his.

He's being utterly lame.

You should do what comes naturally to you. If controlled crying feels wrong, then it is. I could never do it myself and my children were all different when it came to sleep. I think its a personality thing, rather than what 'method' you use, that determines whether a child is a 'good' sleeper.

They DO all grow out of it, sooner or later.

Elizabeth pantley no-cry sleep solution excellent book imo.

When you go in, say v little, keep lights off, don't make eye contact, just soothing noises. You want to stimulate him as little as poss. Make yourself v dull.

6 months a bit young for cc, I think.