Advice for tonight!

[november90]

Hi everyone!
I've decided I need to start sleep weaning my 16 month old.
He's been bf to sleep and part of me loves it, but it's steadily taking longer and longer to get him off and I'm actually up now during the night then ever before :(
Last night I was feeding him for nearly 2 hours (he mainly just sucks) and I just couldn't do it anymore. I decided to try the pick up put down and it went on for about an hour, he was crying, I was crying (he didn't see me).... it was just horrific.
In the end my mum came and helped and rocked him to sleep. He went to sleep at about ten and slept through until 6:30. He's only ever slept through 4 times before!
I'm thinking I need to carry this on now but I don't know what to do tonight.
Should I left my mum get him to sleep for a few nights so he breaks the habit of my feeding him? But then what do I do during the night? Should I break this first feed first then move into the night feeds?
My lb has really bad separation anxiety so I've been told by numerous HV to not leave him to cry. Also my partner works nights so he can't help :(
Any advice would be so appreciated! I feel so lost!

If it was me I’d probably try to get him off the breast before expecting him to sleep through the night. Try get him to drink expressed from a bottle, and then space out the feedings more and more/ hand him a bottle of water instead of milk until his body is used to getting less at night.

Thanks for the reply!
I've had to breast feed this long because he won't take a bottle :( during the day he will drink sparingly from a cup but only when thirsty :( I think he's only bf to suck for comfort to be honest!
The joys of a breast fed baby!
He doesn't bf during the day, just at night for comfort.

We're very similar. I'd started reading a story then feeding with the light on, before saying "let's get you into bed now", putting him in his cot with the light on, then turning it off but with the door open so he can still see I'm there. He can hold my hand if he's lying down. Tbh it doesn't take long before you can progress to someone else doing bed and if your mum is happy to help, I'd take her up on it. My dh put ours to sleep for the first time last night and he slept 7.30-2am which is a record! Good luck.

It's just awful isn't it :(
I'm at the stage where I can't put him down without hysterics.
I thought maybe start weaning the first feed with my mum rocking him to sleep and then gradually working on the rest? I just hope it isn't giving him mixed signals but it's a big change to go cold turkey!
I just don't know what to do for the best and I'm DREADING tonight 😰

How did you get on November? My oh did it again, he slept 7-1am and I went to bed at 9.30 so I got THREE AND A HALF HOURS SLEEP it's a miracle

Well I gave him a feed at 7 and my mum took over at about 7:15 and he fell asleep in 10 mins and slept until 3:30! He had a winge here and there during the night. I fed him at 3:30 and he slept until 6:30! It was so good to not spend 2-3 hours having him suck on me. It felt wonderful! I think we're gonna do this for a week. That's amazing! What did you do when you're LO woke up? I have heard so many other mums say their babies sleep better when someone other then the mum gets up with them, it's just so sad for us though :(

That's great news, I know what you mean about it being sad, but we all do need some sleep! I did actually feed him at 1.30, partly cos I had to! This sudden drop off in feeding hasn't caught up with me yet. He woke up at 4, we got him in our bed and he slept till 5, his usual wake up time. So he's not sleeping longer, but he's dropped the waking up lots before midnight thing. Keep going! Must be lovely for your mum too, to have it work so well :-)

That's amazing! A 5am start 😩❤, hopefully that'll stop as he starts sleeping better! Fingers crossed for us both tonight! It's so hard knowing what to do isn't it. During pregnancy there's so much talk of breast feeding but no talk of how difficult it is to stop and the effect on sleep! (Not that bottle fed babies sleep, hopefully you know what I mean!).