Four year old and bedtime

[candlefloozy]

Ok so I need advice on how to calm
Down my four year old at bedtime. It's getting beyond a joke and she will be in bed for up to an hour and half just talking or trying to get out of bed etc. She can't seem to switch off or relax. We normally read stories and listen to stories on a cd. We don't have any screen time at bedtime. It's getting worse and worse. It's like she keeps going and then just hits the wall.

What time does she go to bed? If she's willing to stay in her room ( even if not in bed) I'd be inclined to leave her to it then go scoop her up off the floor once she has fallen asleep and put her in bed.

My DS is 4 and he chats/ sings himself to sleep whilst playing with stuffed toys or 'reading' his book by night light.

We take her up at 7. She's easily still awake at 8 most nights. Sometimes later. I'd be inclined to put her to bed later but when we've done that she's awake longer and also she wakes up at 6 sometimes earlier.
She can't seem to relax

Have tried a grow clock for the morning? My DS used to get up at 6 but since getting one he has started to sleep later. I think he has learnt that there isn't any point getting up that early as he has to stay in his room until the sun comes up on his clock so now he either isn't waking or going back to sleep.

I think keep doing what you're doing but once you have put to bed leave her and don't worry to much about her pottering around in her room. Maybe try a bath with lavender or camomile in it as part of the routine too as they can really help relax.

@MrsBartlettforthewin thank you. Sometimes you get in a rut and just need someone to strip it back. We had stopped the bath before bedtime but I think we need to reintroduce it. Starting from tonight.
We've got a grow clock which we tried when she had just turned three. But she may understand it a bit more now?