anyone tried Tracy Hoggs pick up and put down on a five week old?

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Hi, my little man doesn't sleep in the day unless he's in my arms. I know I should enjoy the cuddles and I'd love to, but there's a lot of pressure on me to stop it and to put him down. Has anyone tried the technique from The Baby Whisperer to get their children to settle in the basket/cot?

Yep. Waste of time. All it did was exhaust me.

Pressure from who? Babies don't like being put down - they're used to being with you 24/7 and need time to feel safe outside of the womb

Ignore whoever's pressuring you and enjoy the cuddles. 5 weeks is far too young - read up on the fourth trimester.
My dd is 13 months and still naps on me whenever she can. I've not created a 'rod for my own back' as she will nap in her pushchair or cot.
I think we try to make babies independent far too early. Enjoy your baby and ignore evryone else!

I love her routines. More of a framework really. My last 3 were great and I think it was the baby whisperer from day one. 2 breastfed and one bottle fed but worked with them all. I really think the key is feeding after they wake, not before they go down. I don't think I did pick up put down at that age, more just doing the swaddle and hold for a few min then put them down. I liked how they were never left to cry it out as that just wouldn't really be for me.

Although obviously I wanted to do it and no one was pressuring me. Naps on you are all well and good until your on baby number 4 and have 2 separate school runs etc to do.

Who is pressuring you? Baby is 5 weeks, just cuddle them!

It worked for me on DS2 but it was later than 5 weeks and it depends on the baby because DS1 would have none of it.

I believe she only recommends it from 3 months? A baby's brain isn't sufficiently developed before the to use it as a technique.

5 weeks seems very early to be training a baby. Are you all right OP? What do you mean by your pressurised comment?

I just mean that because he only sleeps in arms I can't get much done and so lots of people are saying I have to train him to sleep so I can do housework. I get that but personally I think housework can take a backseat for a while. I have a sling but there's only so much I can do with him strapped to my front and he's too small for me to wear on my back. I feel awful putting him down because he's up again in 5 minutes and my poor boy loses out on quality sleep which he so needs at this age because we keep disturbing him

Sod the housework.

Go with your instincts. It won't be for long in the grand scheme of things. House work? meh it's over-rated 😉

You do not have to do that, the housework can wait.

Enjoy the cuddles & newborn smell while you can. The housework will always be there. Why don’t these people help you by running the hoover around & stuff?

Absolutely follow your instinct. And the housework can wait.
I was told cuddling my dd would make her spoilt. She's a happy, confident little girl who is very sociable and excellent at sharing.

Asian household and I'm currently at my mums to recuperate after the birth before I go back home where I live with my in laws. Everyone else will do the housework but it's a fear of looking lazy and not contributing and using the baby as an excuse to not do things that's making me feel pressured to solve the issue

I did when DC4 was a few weeks old and it worked in48 hours. If I held her she would sleep through her feed!

Is it not shush pat that's recommended for that age?

I did it 11 years ago with my first dd complete waste of time stressed us both out and didn't work

I think it’s shush pat at 5 weeks.

But anyway, it’s early doors. If you’re not normally lazy I’m sure no one will think you are with a new baby. Put him down when he’s awake to do bits if he’s happy. If not get a sling or just hold him and do stuff one handed. It’s not all or nothing. X

Sling/ carrier and do what you can

Most babies sleep REALLY well that way as they're close in to you.

PU/PD is not recommended until later. I have a 9 week old and am currently doing EASY and shh/pat.

I tried to introduce shh/pat at about 5 weeks and it just didn’t work, it was just too early. I think I was just trying to force my son to do too much too soon. What I did do was slowly introduce the EASY routine at about 6 weeks in so far that he wakes, eats, we play and then I attempt to get him to nap. Only in the last two weeks have I tried to introduce more structured napping. Hogg says they should nap for 1.5 hours each time but mine only does 45 mins for two naps in the morning, and then a 2.5 nap around lunch time, normally his 3rd easy routine of the day. Sometimes I think he’s just not that tired.

Shh/pat was a struggle to start with, so I stopped at week 5/6 and tried again at week 8, and we’re getting him down much faster now. I follow the 4 S routine apart from I don’t swaddle him as it’s just too warm to at the moment. I lay with him on the bed with him on his side and hold his hands, this is usually enough to calm him as sometimes he can thrash around and fight the sleep. I pop his dummy in and shh/pat him until his eyes close, which normally takes about 3 minutes. I then pick him up and pop him in his crib, he wakes again but is drowsy enough to shh/pat him back down pretty quickly. I stay for around 7-10 minutes, and look for any jolts. As he’s nodding he’ll jolt a couple of times and I just place a hand on him to settle them (I think this technique is called ‘hold through the jolts’)

Sometimes his dummy pops out what wakes him, so I pop it back in and he nods off again. It then usually drops back out and he stays asleep. Sometimes 45 minutes, sometimes I get over 2 hours.

Way too young.

You can't train a 5 week old to sleep.