Cat naps and rocking to sleep HELP

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My son is 12 weeks old on Sunday and I'm now at the point of wanting to establish a routine. My HV advised that before 12 weeks he will set the routine but now I can try to get him into a routine to make out day a little smoother. So first off he sleeps from around 10/11 to anywhere between 5 and 7 which is fab but during the day he needs to be rocked/bounced to sleep and held tight but as soon as I put him down he wakes up again. This means that he is over tired and has points of the day where he screams until again he's rocked to sleep and the cycle just repeats all day. I feel like I get nothing done through the day and it's really stressing me out. We use white noise and we swaddle. Can anyone help me on how to try and get my son to sleep on his own during the day? And also how to get him to sleep more than 30 to 40 mins at a time? I know that babies should be sleeping around 15 hours per day including night time at 12 weeks but he's getting nowhere near that. I'm getting pretty desperate for help with a routine and the above mentioned issues.

In my experience babies do 40 minute sleeps until 6-8 months.
Have you tried taking him for a walk in the pram to nap?

Apparently babies under 6 months should have 2 hour nap sleep cycles and depending on their age depends on how many through a day.. Anyway yeah as soon as the pram or car stops he wakes up same as when the mamaroo stops or I stop rocking him

The 2 hour naps cycles under 6 months is absolute nonsense - who told you that? My baby slept on me for all naps until about 5 months old (unless out in which case pram or sling). She didn’t do longer than 40 min sleep cycles until she was about 10 months old unless she was ill. They’re all different.

I feel for you, both of my dc did exactly as you describe. It is exhausting, but I would second the suggestion to put him in the pram. That way you do at least get to go outside in peace and get some exercise yourself, or just pop to a local shop.

It does get better as they get older and more active. My dc both got to the stage where they were taking a 2 hour afternoon nap, which was bliss, but not until they were more active, probably after one year old.

My ds had a bouncer chair with a 'vibrate' mode. He used to like that. If he was tired i would put him in the bouncer, put a blanket/muslin over his legs and turn vibrate on. As he got older her learned to bounce it himself and would bounce himself to sleep.

My HV told me that. She told me to try and put him down sleepy in the hopes he falls asleep himself but he doesn't.. I have a mamaroo so it's like a bouncer but mimics different movements like car ride rocking to sleep and it works but again as I stopthe movement or the white noise he wakes up. He settles in the pram when we're out I get that and that's fab but I also would like a cup of tea or to do a washing without a crying baby

Drowsy awake is really rubbish and I’ve never known it to work on any baby! Plus it’s totally unnatural.

sarahockwell-smith.com/2016/04/25/the-real-reasons-why-you-cannot-teach-babies-to-self-soothe-to-sleep/

So I managed to swaddle him with his dummy after being in the mamaroo for an hour and he was put down drowsy not asleep and is asleep now. My issue isn't through the night it's day time, it's really taking its toll on me not being able to get things done, doesn't help my ocd is pretty bad. Also now he's asleep he's probably gonna wake earlier but today was a really bad day in particular. He screamed for 2 hours solid and wouldn't take his feed so he woke starving at 8 25 he normally gets fed around 5 then a dream feed around 10/10.30 (he's on 8oz a feed and a big lad hence the long gaps between feeds) but today has been all over the place. I wonder what time he'll wake for a feed. I've been so used to a 6/7 hour sleep I hope it's not at like 2am

Also many people have different methods to sleeping, I like gina Ford, pretty strict in her approach but everyone is different. I was more looking for advice from mums who have managed to settle their baby without rocking for hours and being able to put them down without them waking instantly... I love the cuddles but would love him to sleep a little longer once put down..

Just wanted to say that I haven't finished her book yet but so far very interesting. Very pessimistic reading it though.. Has anyone read any other books that are about baby sleep?

Sarah Ockwell Smith writes such nonsense.

By 2 hour nap cycle do you mean 90 minute awake time, 40 minute sleep? If so that sounds about right. I think it's easier to accept you will have lots of short naps for the time being. Keep trying different ways to get him to sleep, pram, bouncer etc and as he gets older you will be able to put down drowsy and pat rather than rock.

Gina ford is great for structuring your day but I think her awake times are excessive and lead to a lot of overtiredness.
How long is your baby awake before you try for a nap?