Dd awake for day at 6am

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Firstly, I'm so grateful she's a good sleeper now, she was terrible before 6 weeks and the sleep deprivison really amplified my pnd.

So, Dd (almost 6 months) goes down to sleep between 6-7pm, sometimes wakes up once for her dody during the night, wakes up for a bottle at 4am, but has been dropping the odd one lately.

For the past few weeks or so she's been waking up for the day at 6-6.30 am fully awake and ready for the day and yelling through the wall to let me know. She used to sleep to 7.30 or 8.

This would be fine except DP works 3 shifts and some weeks gets home at daft o clock, and inevitably wakes me up when he comes to bed and leaves me shattered when she wants to be up early.

How can I get her to sleep later? We have blackout curtains and I've tried pushing her bedtime back but she's dead on her feet and I feel terrible for her. By the time she wakes me up in the morning she's wiiiide awake. Any ideas?

No advice but my second has just turned 6 months and we got up bang on 6 today, squealing with delight (him not me). He’s up more in the night than yours though and asleep by 6pm.
My first is almost 3 and has fiiiiinally started sleeping past 7am sometimes, now we’ve given him his dummy back (he gave it up on his own when the baby was born).

I think training your dp to be quiet and not disturb you would probably be the easier option!

6am is a perfectly normal time for a baby to wake up unfortunately. DD2 got up between 5am and 5.30am every single day until she was 2 (now sleeps until 7.30am!).
I think you need to ask your DH to be quieter.

I think waking at 6-6.30 is normal for a bedtime of between 6-7pm to be honest, might be worth trying a later bedtime but that might not help. 6am is a very normal get up time for kids!

I think that's perfectly normal to be honest..
My 3 year old DD never started to sleep through until 2 and now goes to bed between 6:30-7 and wakes up between 4:45 and 5:15 every single day. No matter what time she goes to bed she will always be up at that time.
You have my sympathies OP and if you find anything that works do let me know!

6am is a lie in in this house. I agree with getting your Dh to be quieter and not disturb you would be better.

5am is a normal start here!

6am is a lie in here Ds is 6 and has autism and is up for the day, everyday at 5am. I know that isn’t particularly relevant to you but I do think 6am is a pretty standard wake up time for young babies and young children. Sorry!

I’d just go to bed an hour earlier, I’m afraid.

Wow! 2 years and counting and my DS has never slept past 6. Unfortunately, he's also never slept through either. I'm up at least once every night. After a while you sort of get used to the interrupted sleep. Not sure if pushing the bedtime back would affect the wake up time but you could try ? Sounds like you've got a great little sleeper there though

Normal.

Hate to tell you this...my early riser ds has started getting up at 5 am again. He's 11.
We keep having conversations about how it's not necessary to tell me he's awake.

Totally normal. DS (4) has woken up every morning at 5.30am for years. Come rain or shine, no matter what we've been doing during the previous day and I think he will sleep in till 7...nope, there he is at 5.30, charging about

12 hours sleep.
That's a magical baby right there.

I think your DH needs to be careful and stop waking you up.

6am is really good! Your dp needs to be quieter!

Yeeeeaaah there is no way to stop that. That is what babies and young toddlers do. Thank your lucky stars it's not 5am and get your DH to stop waking you up - he, unlike the baby, can be reasoned with and is trainable.

As pp say she's sleeping for 12hrs, which is great. My DS (almost 2) has also always slept 12hrs but from 8/9pm until 8/8.30am.

I'd much rather sacrifice a bit of our evening in this way than have him up with the sparrows.

Totally normal! My 4 year old only stopped the 5am starts a year ago.

I think most children are awake by 7 (from my experience) and it's one of those parenting things that you adjust to. She's still young though so it might change for you.

Honestly 6-6.30 is a normal wake up time for lots of children and there’s not much you can do. My DS is five and a half and has always woken up at that time. Even if he stays up late he’s generally awake at the same time. Just his natural sleep cycle/body rhythm I think. Very very occasionally he’ll stretch it to just before 7 but that’s it. You just have to get used to it (and go to bed early enough).

Thanks for the advice guys, she's our first baby so we have no idea what we're doing!

I agree that we're very very lucky- I can't believe how bad a sleeper she used to be, she changed completely when we started sleeping her.

As for sleep training DP- should I shush-pat or let him cry it out ? We're already trying cosleeping

sleeping her on her belly that should have been

Sorry OP, you mention PND and that no doubt plays into this but you probably won’t get much sympathy here. Many of us would have moved heaven and earth for a baby that slept for 11-12 hours straight! At 19 months we are just moving into double figures of having ‘slept through’ in his lifetime...
Practical suggestions for the baby, treat everything before your desired get up time as a night waking, whatever you’d do at night, quiet, lights off, cuddles, feed etc. Do not get up with them even if that means sitting in their room in the dark for an hour and a half! Push bedtime back gradually by 15 mins or so at a time to see if that helps.
The real problem though is your DP waking you, he needs to be more considerate- get changed etc elsewhere, be very quiet, sneak in and lie quietly until he falls asleep or sleep somewhere else!

Still getting up at 6, 8 years later, regardless of time he went to bed! Suck it up

DD is 10 and very rarely sleeps past 6am. When they get older you can get them to tell the time and stay quiet in their room until 7am. 12 hours sleep and waking up at 6 am at 6 months isn’t really a problem.