Baby only sleeps on us... is this forever?

[Luckyparents2018]

So our little baby is around 5 weeks old. When he's sleeping on one of us he will have a good deep sleep of around 3 hours. When we try and get him in his cot it's very hard to settle him and once he does he'll sleep for an hour at most.

We've started having him in the bed with us at night on his back and he seems to sleep though not very deep (lots of wriggles and grunts) but he doesn't cry to be taken out like when he's in the cot on his own.

Any advice on whether they ever stop sleeping on a parent's chest and start sleeping on their own in the cot?

Is it really bad to have him in lighter wriggly sleep in the bed with us overnight? Are we depriving him of good sleep?

Are we teaching our baby really bad sleep habits that will see him in our bed for years?

Any help and advice most welcome.

It's not forever. You'll find your way. For us it was a sidecar cot and then suddenly at 5 months she seemed unable to sleep with us anymore so went straight into a cot in her own room.
Unfortunately she still didn't sleep more than 4 hours straight until she was almost 2, but some children don't.

Dd1 was just like this. She's 13 now and still has to sleep on top of us 😁😁. Only joking. She finally settled around 9 months. The other two settled earlier using the pantly pull off method, from about 5 months.

No, he totally won't. We never imagined we co sleep but then ended up doing with both kids, it was the only way for us all to actually sleep. Just do what feels right, not what you feel you should be doing according to your pre child parenting ideals etc. If I were you I'd look in to how to co sleep safely and enjoy the snoozing before they become too big to want to!

Cheers... What's the pantly pull off method?

The Pantley pull off method! This sounds like a double entendre 😂

When you are sleep deprived you don't care what it is called! The gist of it is that you teach them to self soothe - so mine liked to feed to sleep, when nearly asleep you gently detach them/ remove bottle and put finger under chin. At first they wake, but over time they start to mimic sucking by smacking lips together but there is nothing they are actually sucking on. My two (upper primary) can still be seen to be almost sucking if they semi-wake in the night. The key I think is to put them down half asleep but edge that back slowly. Took about a week. We did it when we knew we had holiday/ long weekend as it is tiring constantly putting them down and picking them up. I think they said wait till twelve weeks. The author of the book is Elisabeth Pantly.