20 month old won’t sleep

[Cathrobs14]

Hi I’m at the end of my teather my 20month old has a routine and does go down to sleep well most days however past 2 month she gets up and night screaming having a tantrum every night and will not settle back to sleep until we’ve got her in bed with us that’s the last option I’ve tired giving her milk siting everything but she will not settle it’s getting to much now, she’s in her cot standing up screaming what can I do? Help

The problem is if you have had her in your bed she knows this is an option, so is holding out until she gets what she wants. If you don't want her in your bed you need to be strict and not bring her in at all, but that will no doubt mean some challenging nights/naps.

Have her health checked out at Dr just to make sure no health issue keeping her unsettled at night
E.g. Ear infection-Is she rubbing or pulling at her ears ? Or.

Threadworms- is she itchy around bottom

If her health is all ok, she maybe longs to be close to her parents at night to feel comforted and secure

At what age do others start settling in a toddler bed instead of cot? I think i started to get rid of cot somewhere between 20 -24 months. Not that it gets easier in a bed, but changes the focus from wanting to be close to you in your bed, to being happier in her new big girl's bed
However of course toddlers often do keep getting out of the bed , just 'cos they can

Maybe put a stairgate at bedroom door when you do get a bed for her

Isn’t there an 18 month sleep regression?

Her health is fine! She goes down fine but wakes up and screams the place down I e tried for hours to settle her but she fights and won’t even go and lie down in the cot , when we’re exhaused we just end up putting her on with us, I’ve tried not having a day nap but makes no difference

My 18 month old does the same thing sometimes I just thought he was having a night mare because he usually sleeps through . But the nights he wakes up screaming I can't settle him unless he comes into my bed .. but I do move him when he's fell back to sleep.. I don't like sharing my bed 😄