2.5yr old still not sleeping through. At my wits end

[Flybygirly]

Every night for the last 2.5 years my youngest has not slept through the night....EVER!! Most of the time she’ll go down at bedtime well or grumble for a few minutes but when she wakes at night it takes ages to get her back to sleep

I am at my wits end....we’ve tried every technique going from cry it out to pick up and put down to various gadgets like the oh so creepy Luna doll!

It’s starting to affect my marriage, my job, my relationship with my eldest because it’s not just once a night it’s two or three times a night or more at her worst I’ve even fallen asleep stood up once or twice!

Dr are like she will sleep through eventually and she’s not even remotely clingy in the day she’s a really independent little girl, she’s never shared our bed and was in her own room from quite early on.

I know they are all different but my eldest slept through from four months and could sleep through a marching band trumpeting their way through her bedroom! I just don’t know what I’ve done wrong this time but these last few nights I’ve found myself at breaking point and crying begging her to sleep!

I’m not sure what I’m asking for really I’m hoping someone can give me a lightbulb moment of something I haven’t tried yet!

Don’t really have much to offer except say that my oldest is 3 and has just started sleeping through. I have no idea what’s changed for her - we’ve moved her little sister into her room so maybe the company is helping her and we also make sure she pees right before she sleeps.

In terms of suggestions a few things we tried - we got her a grow clock to try and teach her about when she can wake up and when to go back to sleep.

I slept in her room for a few nights to try and see if that helped her (on her floor so not in bed with her).

We co-slept for a while as that did help her, so she’d go down in her own bed and when she woke for the first time we’d let her into our bed. Not ideal but it helped us keep our sanity.

Perhaps keep a sleep diary and see if any patterns emerge. Might give you a clue as to what to try next.

Sorry I can’t be more help.

My ds just used to get in with me when he woke in the night. Went on until he was about 6. I was a single parent though. Sorry you are having a hard time

Thanks ladies. It’s sometimes just nice to know I’m not alone lol

You're not alone, my DD1 is 3.5 and only recently has started sleeping through the night. Until then my DH would take her into the spare room and co sleep (as I had her younger sister in my bed!) With DD2, who is now 18mo, the only ways that work are co sleeping or if that's not working then CC. She just gets so livid when she wakes in the night and the more I fuss over her trying to get her back to sleep the more irate she gets, so it's best I walk out or we both get very upset. She's still upset if I leave her if course, but she does eventually calm down and go to sleep whereas if I stay with her she is up for hours.