6 month old distressed in cot at night-help!

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Hi all, first time post after a lot of lurking because I'm really really struggling!
My Ebf Ds is 6.5m old. He's never been a good night sleeper in that I can count on one hand the amount of nights he's slept for more than two hours at a time. He hated his Moses basket when he was born so we moved to co sleeping and using a sleepyhead till he was 6 months. We then moved him to his own room as he can roll and I was worried he'd roll off the bed and also that we were disturbing each other a lot as night.
He's an ok napper though it's taken a long time to move him to napping it in me when we are at home.
Now he's in his own room, he's started to be able to go down drowsy but awake at bedtime which is good but once he wakes for a feed he becomes incredibly upset at being put back in his cot. Last night he writhed and screamed everything he was put down, either awake or asleep. He's not a crying baby so it's very out of character (I'd checked he didn't need winding). I managed to get him to sleep after an hour of calming after the first feed but after the second feed he wouldn't calm at all, tried both staying with him shushing and holding him in his cot and also gave him a few min in his own just to see if he'd calm that way. A few times he setteled and calmed but then just as he seemed like he was drifting off he'd jerk and start crying and screaming. Settled as soon as he was held by me and so he ended up sleeping on me...again.

I could really use some advice or just a handhold. I'm exhausted after 6 months of very little sleep and am becoming frustrated with him which I don't want. He's an incredibly active baby which means he's needs a lot of my energy during the day which is hard to do when I'm exhausted and grumpy.
I think it's separation anxiety at night, he's got a cloth that smells of me and we've been playing peekaboo during the day but is there anything else to do? I'm losing hope if this improving, it feels like I'm going to be doing this forever.
Thanks!

I'd suggest just going to GP and get it all checked out make sure there is no other underlying issues. Once that’s sorted they maybe able to give you some places to get from or try contacting the midwife or the people who care to visit you at home. They might be able to help

Thanks whiteradiator. Are there any underlying issues you think might be impacting?

I have a bad sleeping DS who is bf, and we're still co sleeping. Mine happily slept in his Moses basket until he was 7 months. He goes to bed in the cot but won't go back down after waking up. I have the cot against the side of the bed to stop DS rolling or crawling out and there's just DS and I in bed. Co sleeping wasn't what I wanted to do but I need sleep and he was keeping everyone in the house up.
My plan is to move to a floor bed when he was walk.
DS did start to find milk from me in the night very quickly once he was rolling which meant more sleep for me once I got used to it. The GP also advised getting him used to longer gaps between feeds and larger feeds during the day to stop him wanting to feed every 2 hours.
I did find this age the most exhausting.

Thank you both. I did wonder about Tummy ache as has just started weaning but as he fell asleep literally the second I held him against me I'm not sure it was pain related.
We briefly tried a floor bed but he didn't settle in that any better and seems to like being able to roll in his cot. He feeds easily when we co sleep so that did mean more sleep but we can't refigure the room to make the bed safe. He can go up to 4 hours during the day between feeds so I know the constant waking at night isn't just about hunger. Also and I know this is awful, I feel quite touched out and in need of a few min away from him which I'd hoped the separate rooms at night would allow for.

No advice from me I’m afraid but im here to give a hand hold. We are in exactly the same boat with our DS, who is just over 7 months old. I just keep telling myself that it has to get better at some point, whilst frantically googling to try to find a solution!! Unfortunately I’ve not found one yet!

Controlled crying. I think he's just gotten so used to co-sleeping (is that in the same bed as you? ) so he doesn't want to be alone. If you let him cry it out, he will calm down. He's just not used to not sleeping with you.

Ah well at least I'm not the only one frantically looking for answers that don't exist! The handhold is much appreciated!
I agree he is used to being near me, we've been doing safe co-sleeping (just us in bed, no duvet or pillows ect) and that helped but he can now roll to well for it to be safe.