Bedtime routine or my 3hours sleep of the day

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Dd is 6 weeks and a shocking sleeper from week 2. I usually stay up all night because she doesn't sleep more than 1 hour (2 if lucky) and then takes 2-3 hours to settle. I can't just switch off and sleep immediately so I end up not sleeping at all.
Dh takes over in the evening when back from work and stays with her in the living room 8pm - midnight or so, so I can get around 3 hours sleep. But that means having a bedtime routine is out of question as he has her in the sofa while having dinner etc, as I'm sleeping in the bedroom.
I'm loosing my mind and everybody says it will get better but I keep reading I can very well have months of this ahead. Also, everybody says how important is to have a bedtime routine but how can I sacrifice the only 3-4 hours of sleep I can get in the day?

Thank you and sorry for long post x

At 6 weeks I wouldn't worry. Hopefully soon you will find that your baby does their main "stint" of sleep earlier (even if it is only 2 hours!). So when DS was newborn he cluster fed til 1am, then it moved to about 11pm, then around 7pm. At that point I felt like a bedtime routine would work, so we would take him up for bedtime. At 6 weeks we were definitely still in the topsy-turvy day / night stage! You sleeping is very important so keep doing that. Your DH could try a routine possibly but if your baby is wakeful anyway then I don't think it matters too much yet. Good luck and hope it improves soon.

I wouldn’t/didn’t have a bedtime routine at 6 weeks. We started to implement it at 4 months and they have gone to bed at 7pm every night since (they’re 2 and 4 now).
Take your sleep where you can!

Mine cluster fed every night until 11pm for the first 4 months, hence the lack of bedtime routine.

Bedtime routines are really worth it until four to six months in my opinion.

Just do what gets you through.

*not really worth it

Proioritise your sleep.
Bedtime routines will come in time - hopefully with a bigger chunk of sleep early in the evening.
We did exactly what you are doing - I cluster fed til I could stop, then crashed in bed while DH played PlayStation with dozing Baby on his chest til late. Then j fed DS2 again, and slept in 40 min chunksvfor the rest of the night,

Thank you all for your replies, I'll forget about routines for now - it's also a shame I have to spend the only time I have with dh sleeping but I have to survive! Fingers crossed this will improve soon. Good luck all x

When did it improve for you? I know every baby is different but I need some hope