Will sharing a room help siblings sleep?

[claire61]

I have 2 girls, age 2 and 4. Eldest has been sleeping great since 2yrs, when 2nd was born. Before that we did controlled.crying sleep training with her as it had been bad on and off up to 2. Controlled crying was really effective with her, she responded quickly and now she is a great sleeper...
2nd one...not so much!! We have tried sleep training but she DOES NOT GIVE UP!!! after 2 hours of screaming I just give in. Currently, I am holding her while she falls asleep, putting her in cot, then when she wakes (around 11pm) she comes into spare room with me. I haven't slept with my husband all night for months!!

DH puts eldest to bed while I go through this process with youngest, but recently she has been keen to stay in eldest's room for stories etc and I wondered whether she might be happier sleeping in there? Does anyone have any experience of this? We always planned for them to share a room, but obviously I had hoped to sort sleep out first...now I'm wondering if it might help?! Or am I just clutching at straws?! Help!!

Anyone help?

Mine are similar ages and yes it helped. The only thing for us is to be quick if the youngest wakes in the night so they don’t wake the other and to not put to much responsibility onto the eldest for youngest behaviour (not saying be quiet so your sister can sleep, just saying be quiet)

Have you ruled out medical issues? Eg silent reflux, sleep apnoea etc which are hard to detect.

Mine shared a room even though the youngest wasn’t great at night. It made life easier and both were happy as they had company

Didn’t stop the night waking though!

I only have a limited experience, but I think yes.
On holiday one time DD (2yo) and DNiece (4yo) had to share a room. DD is a good sleeper but wakes early and DN has ASD and can some nights just not sleep at all.
DSis and I were braced to be up and
down with them each night but they both slept beautifully! It seemed that DN liked the company so was happy to stay in bed. And DD managed to understand that she had to be quiet and not disturb DN.

Mine two boys have shared a room from when the youngest was 5 months old. My oldest took a while to sleep on his own. I think he was just lonely and liked company. I found them being in the same room was good for the second son, as he had his brother. However, younger son didn't sleep the night until 18 months old. He also didn't disturb his older brother.

I think if your oldest is a sound sleeper it is easier to have them share a room. At 6 and 4 years old they now can't go to sleep without them both being in the room. It's very cute.

I think the main drawback with sharing rooms now is if one is up, they often wake the other, especially the younger son. We are teaching them to stay quiet till 7am and look at books or go quietly to find us or to the living room. It's about 50% success at the moment.

Thanks for responding! No haven't ruled out medical issues, but I'm 99% sure she is just furious that I'm not holding her!! I do know that her final back two molars are coming through now, so wouldn't be making any changes until I could rule out pain from that... Just really wanting her to feel happy in a bed on her own to go to sleep! I can cope with the odd nighttime waking, just want to sleep in my own bed!! I think she objects to her cot too, so am planning to convert to cot bed asap after teeth are through!