2.5 year old suddenly won't sleep.

[Faffandahalf]

After sleeping through on her own from 10 months, 2.5 yr old DD has suddenly decided to be a terrible sleeper.

Firstly going to sleep: she insists on one of us standing outside her door for upto an hour (or more) and intermittently will call 'night night' to check we are there. If not she screams and screams.
She ended up climbing out the cot. She's now in a bed. I made a huge deal about it (being a big girl etc) but it's made no difference. Now she will just stand by the gate and scream instead of we are not there.

Once finally asleep she will then wake up anytime between 12-4 and scream 'stand outside' until we come up. One of us them ends up sleeping in the bed with her (double).

She has gone from absolutely no sleep issues to this in the space of a month. I understand sudden night fear and need for reassurance but I'm
Now at my
Wits end.

CC doesn't seem to be an option. She can scream forever and would just run out of bed every time anyway. She is very wilful. And tbh we both work and need sleep and it's easier to just climb in with her.

However these issues are causing my mental health to deteriorate again much like when she was a non sleeping baby. I have control issues and the fact I can't 'fix' this problem is making me very angry and miserable. I am now snapping at everyone because I dread bedtime where I am forced to sit on a step for an hour.

I have a 6 year old too to deal with at the same time.

I know there's no miracle cure but does anyone have on anyway?

Bumping for the evening.

You could be describing my daughter! She is the same age I don't really have much advice to offer but she is still in a cot and we are in the process of getting her a bed. My DD does go to sleep by herself though but can spend an hour talking to herself before going to sleep. The waking up is tiring I just keep hoping it will improve. Hope someone else can help wirh advice as i am needing it as well.

I wouldn't mind the hour of talking at all because it would mean I could have a life and not be chained to the hallway!

I'm think of CC today. DH ended up in bed with her from 11pm last night.

When mine went through bad periods of sleep they tended to run out of bed, so I’d put them back, before I’d turned my back they’d be up again, so I’d repeat. It would take a few nights and many tears (from me from frustration) but it did the job.

If they were shouting but not getting out of bed I would ignore, I know easier said than done, once I had made sure all was ok.

Or gradual retreat? I tried that once too when ds was around 3 I think.

But I’m quite mean with getting children to sleep compared with most I hear about...

I want to be mean too because there is nothing wrong with her at all.
However I live with inlaws who sleep in room next door and not sure they will like or appreciate the screaming