Help please! 6 month old waking EVERY 20 minutes!

[mummyoftwo5]

Ok, well not all night but for a good part! I think the problem is most definitely that she doesn't know how to settle herself off the sleep. I feed her to sleep for naps and bedtime and she needs me to be lay next to her unless in a deep sleep otherwise she wakes! So yesterday evening, in bed (my bed!) by 6pm nursed to sleep by 06:15, awake by 7pm, straight back to sleep once me and nipple there then only asleep for around 20 mins at a time until 9pm when I gave in and went to bed. She can then repeat her waking until the morning! She has been on solids for a few weeks so may be giving her tummy ache, no teeth yet. However she has always woken loads, but previously hourly so not as often! She has two naps atm, around 2.5hrs total. Refusing to take 3rd nap so bedtime moved forward.

Sorry written an essay but ultimately, I want to know what sleep training techniques worked best for people to move away from feeding to sleep? Co-sleeping is also not really working great atm as you can see so ideally want to train her in cot! My poor DD1 is feeling v neglected

Please help! Thank you :)

Op I've recently stopped feeding my 6.5 month old to sleep, so I feed her (I was EBF but now moving to formula as back to work tomorrow!!) and then put her in her cot sleepy but awake. I thought she would scream the house down but she grumbles and after a bit of moaning and a couple days me holding her hand and comforting her but not picking her up she does goes to sleep by herself easily.

BUT she still wakes up all the bloody time after her big chunk of sleep (which is 7:30 till 12:30 roughly) and because I go to bed at 10 I don't reap the benefits of the good sleep!

I'm not sure what to do, but I read to change a habit (so sleep habit in this case) it takes a baby a day for every month they're alive, so you basically need to try things for about a week before knowing for sure if it works.

I'm considering a very gentle controlled crying as I'm sure she's waking out of habit and I annoy her even more by picking her up. I'm also up to see her in a flash and don't let her cry for a moment (I don't want to wake everyone in the house and piss off the neighbours!)

But day time sleep and bed time is brilliant now she doesn't need me to feed her to sleep. Just leave a bigger gap after you feed her before you put her in bed and comfort her in other ways if she needs it.

sarahockwell-smith.com/2017/09/05/8-ways-to-encourage-better-baby-toddler-sleep-without-sleep-training/

@crazycatlady5 yes good points on link, thank you :) will look at the things that may be affecting her environment wise. I appreciate that babies are difficult with sleep, god knows my DD1 deprived me for about 3 years! However, I also believe that after 6 months some gentle sleep training can help, it did with my first but they are very different babies!. It's really hard to get two children to bed when DD2 wakes up so frequently and DD1 deserves my time too! Also babies need sleep to grow/develop and she just isn't getting enough quality sleep atm!

@Cheekylittlenumber Ahh thank you! You've given me hope haha! I did look at similar thing to what you did....gradual retreat? I worry though that she will just scream and scream if I don't whip my boob out and try and settle her another way! Did you use a dummy or anything? Good luck for work tomorrow!

Do you have a dp? The easiest solution is to not feed to sleep and send in someone else (not lactating!) to settle them by whatever means. At night I’d maybe feed at intervals no closer than 4 hours